I should have done it this way! You are doing it wrong! My way really works, do it now! You can’t be an expert without a degree. They really aren’t working very hard. That was a stupid answer.
One of our 6 intellectual gifts – perception – is the one that is always changing based on new information. The six are perception, intuition, imagination, memory, reason and will. Perception, or our point of view, changes constantly! When we judge another by our standards and ideas (perception/point of view) we are saying ‘our way of doing things is the best way.’ But it’s not forever and in many cases it is only momentary.
Perception like the other gifts must be exercised – exercised like a muscle. When it is weak, we don’t even see it is changing and rely on our old point of view in judging situations. When strong, we can track the changes in our perception and take action based on the change in real-time.
We each have our own distinct perception of everything and anything. No two points of view are precisely alike. And I believe my way works for me and you believe your way works for you. So should you judge another by your perception, just know that they are not using your point of view, but their own.
How does one ‘exercise’ the mental muscle of perception? For it is via exercise that we begin to see that there is never a reason to judge someone by our own point of view. Often telling another they should do it a certain way, has them feel that you are ‘making them wrong.’ Why they feel this way is about their limiting beliefs, which I have written about in the archives of this newsletter.
If you accept the law of polarity (one of the universal laws) you know that for every yes, there is a no. For every up there is a down. No outside, unless you have an inside, and so forth. Whether you embrace this law or not, it does work each and every time without fail, like gravity. If someone is doing something you consider ‘wrong,’ remember it is ‘right’ for them.
If you can ‘catch’ yourself judging another by your perception, that is a start. Just realizing you are doing it is step one. Even if you would bet a week’s salary you are RIGHT about this topic, STOP and say nothing. Remind yourself that your being right only works for you… no one else. With tens of thousands of bits of information coming to us via our five senses every day, catching yourself once a day is perfect.
Because repetition is the first law of learning, haphazard practice or exercise of this mental muscle does not work. You must actively make an effort each day, or every other day, or 3 times a week in spaced intervals to take this action. Now and then is a waste of your time, it doesn’t ‘stick,’ or become a habit for you – the habit of grace – letting others have their own way of doing things!
If you commit to doing this consistently over 90 days, you will find you no longer push your point of view or perspective on others because 1) you know they have their own unique perspective, 2) you see your own point of view changing as you get new information, and 3) you can then open the door to a discussion about both your points of view for a synergistic effect.
No one likes to feel they did are doing something wrong. It feels bad. And to be in harmony with the abundance of the universe is to feel good – our natural state. Before you speak to judge another – smile, stop yourself, (bite your tongue if you must) and just listen to the other person. Then you can pat yourself on the back because you have just taken your first step in developing that mental muscle – perception – which distinguishes you from more than 90% of people who are simply unaware of this gift and how it can be developed.
Leslie Flowers
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Wednesday, February 16, 2011
Wednesday, December 15, 2010
drop 36: the ultimate thermostat
drop 36: the ultimate thermostat
Our own self image, belief, or esteem is just like our heating and cooling thermostats – it’s a cybernetic system. Interesting that in the 1960’s Maxwell Maltz wrote Psycho Cybernetics. I read it then and what struck me was that Maltz was a plastic surgeon and he noted that people with facial disfigurations, when repaired, they still saw themselves as though the disfigurations were still present.
Here is an example of how this works. I’ve chosen children and report cards, yet this works for each of us, no matter what age.
1. We set the thermostat to keep the house warm or cool at 70 degrees.
1. A child's grades over a period of time are average. This is what his report card reflects. This is what his teachers tell him. This is what his parents tell him. His work is average.
2. Someone comes into the house and leaves the front door open in winter.
2. Parents offer incentives for the child to do better and, he is temporarily inspired.
3. Signal goes to furnace to turn it on to bring the temp back to 70.
3. Inspired child works hard with some results for a short period of time.
4. When 70 degrees is restored, signal tells furnace to shut off.
4. Before long the child loses temporary inspiration and goes back to his average behavior.
To change the 'set point' as to what a child believes he can accomplish, it takes spaced repetitive and consistent feeding of information that says the child is better than average. Since most parents are simply unaware of how their own and their child's self esteem is built, they do not even know what they have done to build that image ... nor what they can do to reverse it.
As we are all born with infinite potential, it is a pity to see and hear that a child's image of himself is average (or less than average).
The 'setting' of the image can come in words like "that was stupid," "you weren't thinking," "these are terrible grades," "can't you do any better," "your brother got all A's," and so on and so forth. The more times a child hears these things, the more 'locked in' self image becomes.
Is it true -- that he is average (or that we are)? Of course it is not. But what we believe, is the truth for us. We never outperform our own self image. This is likely THE biggest reason why only a very few people are really successful. If you don't believe you can be, you will not be. I address this very issue specifically in my Think & Grow Rich mastermind studies and in my new program for communities and schools, Style & Mindset.
Wishing you a safe, warm and industrious holiday season with results in the new year that are bigger and better than ever before!
Leslie Flowers
Our own self image, belief, or esteem is just like our heating and cooling thermostats – it’s a cybernetic system. Interesting that in the 1960’s Maxwell Maltz wrote Psycho Cybernetics. I read it then and what struck me was that Maltz was a plastic surgeon and he noted that people with facial disfigurations, when repaired, they still saw themselves as though the disfigurations were still present.
Here is an example of how this works. I’ve chosen children and report cards, yet this works for each of us, no matter what age.
1. We set the thermostat to keep the house warm or cool at 70 degrees.
1. A child's grades over a period of time are average. This is what his report card reflects. This is what his teachers tell him. This is what his parents tell him. His work is average.
2. Someone comes into the house and leaves the front door open in winter.
2. Parents offer incentives for the child to do better and, he is temporarily inspired.
3. Signal goes to furnace to turn it on to bring the temp back to 70.
3. Inspired child works hard with some results for a short period of time.
4. When 70 degrees is restored, signal tells furnace to shut off.
4. Before long the child loses temporary inspiration and goes back to his average behavior.
To change the 'set point' as to what a child believes he can accomplish, it takes spaced repetitive and consistent feeding of information that says the child is better than average. Since most parents are simply unaware of how their own and their child's self esteem is built, they do not even know what they have done to build that image ... nor what they can do to reverse it.
As we are all born with infinite potential, it is a pity to see and hear that a child's image of himself is average (or less than average).
The 'setting' of the image can come in words like "that was stupid," "you weren't thinking," "these are terrible grades," "can't you do any better," "your brother got all A's," and so on and so forth. The more times a child hears these things, the more 'locked in' self image becomes.
Is it true -- that he is average (or that we are)? Of course it is not. But what we believe, is the truth for us. We never outperform our own self image. This is likely THE biggest reason why only a very few people are really successful. If you don't believe you can be, you will not be. I address this very issue specifically in my Think & Grow Rich mastermind studies and in my new program for communities and schools, Style & Mindset.
Wishing you a safe, warm and industrious holiday season with results in the new year that are bigger and better than ever before!
Leslie Flowers
Wednesday, June 30, 2010
When WE change, does our BRAIN change as well?
Drop 24: When WE change, does our BRAIN change as well?
Or … does our brain change before we change? Or … do they occur concurrently?
You are either pondering these three questions or you may be wondering … does it matter?
To know the answer requires our gaining new knowledge. Einstein said it best “"We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them." If we already knew the answer, we wouldn’t have the question! Of course!
When a question arises … any question … consider that the answer is created also in that moment … but on a higher level of awareness. This supports the Law of Polarity or opposites, which says for every question, there must be an answer; for every up … always a down, and so on. So we begin to think, we read, we ask others … all in an effort to not only understand the question, but to gain access to the answer.
Gain access … what does that mean? Is there a doorway that leads us up to the answers (or ideas that spawn the answers)? Is there a lock and key we must have in our possession to get those answers? Access to higher awareness is your gift when you are thirsty for new knowledge. It’s like a plant being thirsty for water and nutrients. Give it plain water only and it lives certainly; add to it nutrients, and it flourishes. We are supposed to be flourishing. While we don’t have petals, we do have conscious awareness. We must feed it to gain the keys to the kingdom.
The answer to the 3 questions … is YES. With nothing less than sheer abundance of any and all things – and with your perfect Faith in that lawful process – we change first, last and with our Brain.
The mere process of looking for the answer moves us higher on the ladder of awareness. Awareness is an understanding of the patterns and processes of our thinking and the ability to discard or ignore thoughts in the present moment that do not move us toward our purpose or make us happy. Why do that? Because we only hold one conscious thought in our mind at a time, we want to save that space for rich ideas that are always flowing from form, then through form (us), then back into form (idea, belief, action, results).
Bruce Lipton in the Biology of Belief explains in detail how our thoughts trigger cell sensors which cause proteins to change shape, thereby causing movement (vibration). Happy thoughts – high vibration; sad thoughts – low vibration, with matching results. When we duplicate the happy thoughts they become our habits. Same is so with the opposite, of course.
Leslie Flowers - Drops of Awareness
For more information contact leslie@pathsofchange.com.
Or … does our brain change before we change? Or … do they occur concurrently?
You are either pondering these three questions or you may be wondering … does it matter?
To know the answer requires our gaining new knowledge. Einstein said it best “"We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them." If we already knew the answer, we wouldn’t have the question! Of course!
When a question arises … any question … consider that the answer is created also in that moment … but on a higher level of awareness. This supports the Law of Polarity or opposites, which says for every question, there must be an answer; for every up … always a down, and so on. So we begin to think, we read, we ask others … all in an effort to not only understand the question, but to gain access to the answer.
Gain access … what does that mean? Is there a doorway that leads us up to the answers (or ideas that spawn the answers)? Is there a lock and key we must have in our possession to get those answers? Access to higher awareness is your gift when you are thirsty for new knowledge. It’s like a plant being thirsty for water and nutrients. Give it plain water only and it lives certainly; add to it nutrients, and it flourishes. We are supposed to be flourishing. While we don’t have petals, we do have conscious awareness. We must feed it to gain the keys to the kingdom.
The answer to the 3 questions … is YES. With nothing less than sheer abundance of any and all things – and with your perfect Faith in that lawful process – we change first, last and with our Brain.
The mere process of looking for the answer moves us higher on the ladder of awareness. Awareness is an understanding of the patterns and processes of our thinking and the ability to discard or ignore thoughts in the present moment that do not move us toward our purpose or make us happy. Why do that? Because we only hold one conscious thought in our mind at a time, we want to save that space for rich ideas that are always flowing from form, then through form (us), then back into form (idea, belief, action, results).
Bruce Lipton in the Biology of Belief explains in detail how our thoughts trigger cell sensors which cause proteins to change shape, thereby causing movement (vibration). Happy thoughts – high vibration; sad thoughts – low vibration, with matching results. When we duplicate the happy thoughts they become our habits. Same is so with the opposite, of course.
Leslie Flowers - Drops of Awareness
For more information contact leslie@pathsofchange.com.
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