"Think what it would be like to go about your day with your mind filled
only with happy and loving thoughts. Everyone you meet has a smile and a
glow of happiness about him or her. There is no sickness, no hunger, no
conflict or lack, no time and no death. Peace has replaced fear
everywhere. This is our world when forgiveness has come and we are free
to love again." - The Miracle of Real Forgiveness by Tom Carpenter
The Forgiveness Movement
Showing posts with label problem solving. Show all posts
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Thursday, April 26, 2012
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
Feeling Good and the Law of Attraction by Wendy Betterini
Feeling Good and the Law of Attraction by Wendy Betterini
The more we learn about using the Law of Attraction consciously in
our lives, the more we understand that our emotional state
determines our vibrational frequency, which attracts the quality of
experiences we have. With this knowledge comes the understanding
that feeling good (happy, joyful, enthusiastic, optimistic) will
attract more of the same into our lives.
But is it really possible to feel good all the time? How do we deal
with life's little (and not so little) annoyances? Are we supposed
to live in a state of denial and take on a Pollyanna attitude? What
about the devastating life experiences that shake us to our core,
such as the death of a loved one or a natural disaster? How is it
possible to remain in a positive emotional state when laboring
under feelings of grief and despair?
The short answer is: it's not only difficult, but also detrimental
to us to do so.
Our feelings are real. Trying to deny them or smooth them over with
blanket statements of positive focus won't help us resolve them at
a core level. Instead, it's important to honor our feelings and
work through them in a positive and productive manner. How? By
admitting that we feel rotten, and allowing ourselves to feel that
way. It's okay to feel angry, sad, or hurt when something awful
happens!
The best gift we can give ourselves is the opportunity to feel our
feelings, genuinely and deeply. When you feel sad about something,
let yourself feel sad. Embrace the feelings, and move through them.
Write in a journal about why you're sad, and express the feelings
rising up within you. Write out your rage, your pain, your grief.
Scream your fury to the universe. It is only by moving through your
feelings that you can come out of them eventually.
Having said that, we must also reach a point when we choose to step
out of our misery and feel hopeful again. We must eventually turn
our focus to thoughts of healing and peace. Continuing to stay
mired in pain for an excessive amount of time can be just as
detrimental as denying our pain altogether. What is considered an
"excessive" amount of time? Only you can say. Your grief process
might last a few days, or a few years. Simply stay tuned in to
yourself, your thoughts, your emotions, and you'll know when you're
beginning to move out of the grief process.
What about the smaller annoyances we deal with on a daily basis?
This is the more common struggle for most of us. How do we stay
positive when facing traffic jams, rude people, misbehaving
children, inconsiderate spouses, demanding bosses, financial
challenges, and repeated feelings of frustration that we just can't
seem to get it together?
Though these experiences seem overwhelming, they are actually the
most simple to deal with if you shift your perspective slightly.
The best tool I've discovered for dealing with frustration is the
ability to choose what I focus on.
Let's use an example to demonstrate this concept. Let's say you're
running late for work and you have an important meeting to attend
when you get there. You dash to your car, praying for a quick, easy
ride to work so you can be on time for your meeting. Shortly after
you leave home, you run into a big traffic jam. Cars are moving
slower than molasses, and you sit there behind the wheel feeling
angry and frustrated because you know you're going to be late for
your meeting, which will bring on some unpleasant comments from
your boss, and probably ruin your chances for the promotion you
were hoping to get. The more you follow this line of thought, the
more angry and frustrated you will become. So what can you do to
turn this situation around?
Here are the techniques I've found most helpful in frustrating
circumstances:
1) Intend a different outcome. Remember that your focus will
attract a corresponding result! You're already stuck in the traffic
jam, so denying it would be futile. However, does the existence of
a traffic jam have to bring about the negative consequences you
envisioned? Not necessarily. You are making assumptions about what
this experience will mean to you. If you instead choose to make it
mean something else, you can actually change the outcome. How? Try
affirming something like this: "Even though traffic seems to be
moving slowly, I KNOW I will arrive at work exactly on time. The
universe is working with me to create the most beneficial outcome
possible." The trick is to put your full faith into this
affirmation, and not let yourself become filled with doubt or
worry. Then, any number of things could happen to support your new
belief. Traffic might begin moving more quickly because the
obstruction is cleared, or you might still arrive at work a few
minutes late only to discover that your boss and several other
coworkers were also late because of the traffic jam, so the meeting
begins later than planned.
2) Choose to feel good anyway! This is a little more challenging,
but the more you do it the better you get at it. Simply choose to
turn your thoughts to a more positive place. Rather than dwelling
on your frustration, find something to feel good about and focus on
it. Think about your loved ones, pets, or friends. Recall a happy
memory that makes you laugh out loud. Carry some uplifting audio
books in your car so you can listen to them when you need a boost.
Turn your attention firmly away from thoughts that increase your
worry and irritation, and toward thoughts that make you feel happy.
It seems difficult to overcome negative thoughts and feelings, but
it's really as simple as choosing your focus moment to moment, day
after day. The more practice you get at feeling good overall, the
more you'll find yourself able to step calmly over minor
irritations, and deal effectively with bigger issues.
The more we learn about using the Law of Attraction consciously in
our lives, the more we understand that our emotional state
determines our vibrational frequency, which attracts the quality of
experiences we have. With this knowledge comes the understanding
that feeling good (happy, joyful, enthusiastic, optimistic) will
attract more of the same into our lives.
But is it really possible to feel good all the time? How do we deal
with life's little (and not so little) annoyances? Are we supposed
to live in a state of denial and take on a Pollyanna attitude? What
about the devastating life experiences that shake us to our core,
such as the death of a loved one or a natural disaster? How is it
possible to remain in a positive emotional state when laboring
under feelings of grief and despair?
The short answer is: it's not only difficult, but also detrimental
to us to do so.
Our feelings are real. Trying to deny them or smooth them over with
blanket statements of positive focus won't help us resolve them at
a core level. Instead, it's important to honor our feelings and
work through them in a positive and productive manner. How? By
admitting that we feel rotten, and allowing ourselves to feel that
way. It's okay to feel angry, sad, or hurt when something awful
happens!
The best gift we can give ourselves is the opportunity to feel our
feelings, genuinely and deeply. When you feel sad about something,
let yourself feel sad. Embrace the feelings, and move through them.
Write in a journal about why you're sad, and express the feelings
rising up within you. Write out your rage, your pain, your grief.
Scream your fury to the universe. It is only by moving through your
feelings that you can come out of them eventually.
Having said that, we must also reach a point when we choose to step
out of our misery and feel hopeful again. We must eventually turn
our focus to thoughts of healing and peace. Continuing to stay
mired in pain for an excessive amount of time can be just as
detrimental as denying our pain altogether. What is considered an
"excessive" amount of time? Only you can say. Your grief process
might last a few days, or a few years. Simply stay tuned in to
yourself, your thoughts, your emotions, and you'll know when you're
beginning to move out of the grief process.
What about the smaller annoyances we deal with on a daily basis?
This is the more common struggle for most of us. How do we stay
positive when facing traffic jams, rude people, misbehaving
children, inconsiderate spouses, demanding bosses, financial
challenges, and repeated feelings of frustration that we just can't
seem to get it together?
Though these experiences seem overwhelming, they are actually the
most simple to deal with if you shift your perspective slightly.
The best tool I've discovered for dealing with frustration is the
ability to choose what I focus on.
Let's use an example to demonstrate this concept. Let's say you're
running late for work and you have an important meeting to attend
when you get there. You dash to your car, praying for a quick, easy
ride to work so you can be on time for your meeting. Shortly after
you leave home, you run into a big traffic jam. Cars are moving
slower than molasses, and you sit there behind the wheel feeling
angry and frustrated because you know you're going to be late for
your meeting, which will bring on some unpleasant comments from
your boss, and probably ruin your chances for the promotion you
were hoping to get. The more you follow this line of thought, the
more angry and frustrated you will become. So what can you do to
turn this situation around?
Here are the techniques I've found most helpful in frustrating
circumstances:
1) Intend a different outcome. Remember that your focus will
attract a corresponding result! You're already stuck in the traffic
jam, so denying it would be futile. However, does the existence of
a traffic jam have to bring about the negative consequences you
envisioned? Not necessarily. You are making assumptions about what
this experience will mean to you. If you instead choose to make it
mean something else, you can actually change the outcome. How? Try
affirming something like this: "Even though traffic seems to be
moving slowly, I KNOW I will arrive at work exactly on time. The
universe is working with me to create the most beneficial outcome
possible." The trick is to put your full faith into this
affirmation, and not let yourself become filled with doubt or
worry. Then, any number of things could happen to support your new
belief. Traffic might begin moving more quickly because the
obstruction is cleared, or you might still arrive at work a few
minutes late only to discover that your boss and several other
coworkers were also late because of the traffic jam, so the meeting
begins later than planned.
2) Choose to feel good anyway! This is a little more challenging,
but the more you do it the better you get at it. Simply choose to
turn your thoughts to a more positive place. Rather than dwelling
on your frustration, find something to feel good about and focus on
it. Think about your loved ones, pets, or friends. Recall a happy
memory that makes you laugh out loud. Carry some uplifting audio
books in your car so you can listen to them when you need a boost.
Turn your attention firmly away from thoughts that increase your
worry and irritation, and toward thoughts that make you feel happy.
It seems difficult to overcome negative thoughts and feelings, but
it's really as simple as choosing your focus moment to moment, day
after day. The more practice you get at feeling good overall, the
more you'll find yourself able to step calmly over minor
irritations, and deal effectively with bigger issues.
Thursday, April 16, 2009
The money factor in male attraction
The money factor in male attraction
Why do women love rich men? This question seems to baffle and infuriate men, yet the answer is so simple and logical. As a result, men label women all manner of names from ‘hoe’ to ‘gold digger’.
They refuse to believe that women are attracted to men with money less by a love for money than due to her genetic make-up. So today I will try and enlighten all men so that, the next time a woman leaves you for a richer man, you can blame it on her maternal instincts and not be so quick to judge her.
Every woman is born with some form of maternal instincts. The purpose is to enable her to effectively pick out the perfect mate. With the perfect mate she bears children and expects to not only be sufficiently provided for but that her offspring will also be well provided for. So while picking her mate one of the most important requirements is that the man can provide well. In primitive society, the law of the jungle prevailed and the strongest man ruled over the weak.
His strength represented power and thus he had more resources than the weaker men. As a result he had more women admirers. Women couldn’t get enough of his resource pool and he often had more than one wife. His wives were usually considered the most beautiful in the land.
Today money as opposed to sheer strength represents power and the man who has it makes the rules. On top of the power they wield, rich men have some qualities that men without it often lack. Rich men are often very confident, they have a sexy swagger that seems only come with money, and they dress well. Plus they seem to know what they want and where they are going life. They make a woman feel like they can make the world stop if only she were to ask.
Their money means that they have power and power means that whichever woman they choose will be sufficiently provided for and her kids will have the best of everything. Unfortunately for men, we are living in a material world and we are all material girls. Thus whoever makes the money will get all the girls. So if you want a good woman or want to keep your woman, you better make that ‘paper’.
Resource Pool @ view link
Why do women love rich men? This question seems to baffle and infuriate men, yet the answer is so simple and logical. As a result, men label women all manner of names from ‘hoe’ to ‘gold digger’.
They refuse to believe that women are attracted to men with money less by a love for money than due to her genetic make-up. So today I will try and enlighten all men so that, the next time a woman leaves you for a richer man, you can blame it on her maternal instincts and not be so quick to judge her.
Every woman is born with some form of maternal instincts. The purpose is to enable her to effectively pick out the perfect mate. With the perfect mate she bears children and expects to not only be sufficiently provided for but that her offspring will also be well provided for. So while picking her mate one of the most important requirements is that the man can provide well. In primitive society, the law of the jungle prevailed and the strongest man ruled over the weak.
His strength represented power and thus he had more resources than the weaker men. As a result he had more women admirers. Women couldn’t get enough of his resource pool and he often had more than one wife. His wives were usually considered the most beautiful in the land.
Today money as opposed to sheer strength represents power and the man who has it makes the rules. On top of the power they wield, rich men have some qualities that men without it often lack. Rich men are often very confident, they have a sexy swagger that seems only come with money, and they dress well. Plus they seem to know what they want and where they are going life. They make a woman feel like they can make the world stop if only she were to ask.
Their money means that they have power and power means that whichever woman they choose will be sufficiently provided for and her kids will have the best of everything. Unfortunately for men, we are living in a material world and we are all material girls. Thus whoever makes the money will get all the girls. So if you want a good woman or want to keep your woman, you better make that ‘paper’.
Resource Pool @ view link
Tuesday, April 14, 2009
AUTOBIOGRAPHY IN FIVE SHORT CHAPTERS by Portia Nelson
AUTOBIOGRAPHY IN FIVE SHORT CHAPTERS
by Portia Nelson
CHAPTER I
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I fall in.
I am lost … I am helpless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes me forever to find a way out.
CHAPTER II
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in the same place
but, it isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.
CHAPTER III
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in … it’s a habit.
my eyes are open
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.
CHAPTER IV
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.
CHAPTER V
I walk down another street.
THE END
Today take another street!
by Portia Nelson
CHAPTER I
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I fall in.
I am lost … I am helpless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes me forever to find a way out.
CHAPTER II
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in the same place
but, it isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.
CHAPTER III
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in … it’s a habit.
my eyes are open
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.
CHAPTER IV
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.
CHAPTER V
I walk down another street.
THE END
Today take another street!
Sunday, April 5, 2009
The Secret Skill by Cheryl Richardson
The Secret Skill
by Cheryl Richardson
What's the secret of success? What do we need most to accomplish our goals, to fulfill our intentions, or to realize our dreams? Some might say intelligence, others may say money, patience, or the right connections. While all of these ingredients are important, the true secret of success is an often overlooked and critical skill - resourcefulness. Let me give you a simple example of what I mean.
Recently I spent some time with my good friend Nancy checking out a possible new location for future retreats. One morning, as Nancy and I were sitting in our room having coffee, I took out some tissue paper from my suitcase to wrap a birthday gift for a friend I planned to see later in the day. As I began to fold the paper around the gift, I realized I had no tape or ribbon to secure the wrapping. So, rather than walk to the gift store, I decided to challenge myself to find a way to get the gift wrapped without having the right tools. I saw this as an opportunity to stretch my resourcefulness muscles - something I enjoy doing.
I took a large, pink piece of tissue paper and carefully wrapped it around the gift. Then, I took a pink and white piece, folded it into a thin strip, and used it to keep the ends of the pink paper closed. But, I still needed something to secure the strip. So, I went out into the garden to look for a long piece of grass, or a thin branch from a nearby bush. No luck. I went back inside to keep searching.
By now, Nancy was fully on board and we were both having fun trying to find a solution. Nancy is one of the most resourceful people I know, and I knew it was a matter of time before we came up with an idea. Just then, I walked into my bathroom and immediately found the answer: dental floss. I pulled a long piece from the container, tied it around the gift, and stepped back to admire my creation. The gift looked like it had been professionally wrapped (and it smelled minty-fresh, too!).
Our successful attempt to wrap the gift prompted a discussion about the importance of being resourceful. Nancy is the Events Director for more than 85 Hay House programs every year, and she's challenged to find solutions to problems every day. As a result she's a lightening-quick thinker, a bulldog when it comes to follow through, and a master at finding solutions to what appear to be insurmountable problems. If a goal or dream is meant to be realized, then these are the skills you'll want to make it happen.
The American Heritage Dictionary defines resourceful as: The ability to act effectively or imaginatively, especially in difficult situations. If you develop this ability, you're sure to succeed at the things that matter most. So, think about it. How resourceful are you? To find out, choose a goal or intention that's important to you, one that also presents a challenge. Then, take the following three steps.
Step 1 - Decide in your mind that there is a solution to the problem or challenge - period, end of discussion. Don't take no for an answer.
Step 2 - Commit to doing whatever it takes to find that solution (this is why the goal better be important).
Step 3 - Start searching for your next step and be open to unexpected ideas. Then take action.
Whether you need to find a new job in a hurry, money to pay this month's rent, an idea to help take your business to the next level, or a way to turn a mistake into an opportunity, resourcefulness is your ticket to a successful outcome. Just stay open-minded and be sure to keep your feet moving :).
Take Action Challenge
When you develop your resourcefulness muscles, you'll stop being afraid of failure. And you'll start influencing the lives of others in a powerful way. For further proof, I invite you to check out this beautiful commencement speech delivered by J.K. Rowling at Harvard University. It's called, "The Fringe Benefits of Failure, and the Importance of Imagination." Check it out here:
J.K. Rowling Speaks at Harvard Commencement from Harvard Magazine on Vimeo.
by Cheryl Richardson
What's the secret of success? What do we need most to accomplish our goals, to fulfill our intentions, or to realize our dreams? Some might say intelligence, others may say money, patience, or the right connections. While all of these ingredients are important, the true secret of success is an often overlooked and critical skill - resourcefulness. Let me give you a simple example of what I mean.
Recently I spent some time with my good friend Nancy checking out a possible new location for future retreats. One morning, as Nancy and I were sitting in our room having coffee, I took out some tissue paper from my suitcase to wrap a birthday gift for a friend I planned to see later in the day. As I began to fold the paper around the gift, I realized I had no tape or ribbon to secure the wrapping. So, rather than walk to the gift store, I decided to challenge myself to find a way to get the gift wrapped without having the right tools. I saw this as an opportunity to stretch my resourcefulness muscles - something I enjoy doing.
I took a large, pink piece of tissue paper and carefully wrapped it around the gift. Then, I took a pink and white piece, folded it into a thin strip, and used it to keep the ends of the pink paper closed. But, I still needed something to secure the strip. So, I went out into the garden to look for a long piece of grass, or a thin branch from a nearby bush. No luck. I went back inside to keep searching.
By now, Nancy was fully on board and we were both having fun trying to find a solution. Nancy is one of the most resourceful people I know, and I knew it was a matter of time before we came up with an idea. Just then, I walked into my bathroom and immediately found the answer: dental floss. I pulled a long piece from the container, tied it around the gift, and stepped back to admire my creation. The gift looked like it had been professionally wrapped (and it smelled minty-fresh, too!).
Our successful attempt to wrap the gift prompted a discussion about the importance of being resourceful. Nancy is the Events Director for more than 85 Hay House programs every year, and she's challenged to find solutions to problems every day. As a result she's a lightening-quick thinker, a bulldog when it comes to follow through, and a master at finding solutions to what appear to be insurmountable problems. If a goal or dream is meant to be realized, then these are the skills you'll want to make it happen.
The American Heritage Dictionary defines resourceful as: The ability to act effectively or imaginatively, especially in difficult situations. If you develop this ability, you're sure to succeed at the things that matter most. So, think about it. How resourceful are you? To find out, choose a goal or intention that's important to you, one that also presents a challenge. Then, take the following three steps.
Step 1 - Decide in your mind that there is a solution to the problem or challenge - period, end of discussion. Don't take no for an answer.
Step 2 - Commit to doing whatever it takes to find that solution (this is why the goal better be important).
Step 3 - Start searching for your next step and be open to unexpected ideas. Then take action.
Whether you need to find a new job in a hurry, money to pay this month's rent, an idea to help take your business to the next level, or a way to turn a mistake into an opportunity, resourcefulness is your ticket to a successful outcome. Just stay open-minded and be sure to keep your feet moving :).
Take Action Challenge
When you develop your resourcefulness muscles, you'll stop being afraid of failure. And you'll start influencing the lives of others in a powerful way. For further proof, I invite you to check out this beautiful commencement speech delivered by J.K. Rowling at Harvard University. It's called, "The Fringe Benefits of Failure, and the Importance of Imagination." Check it out here:
J.K. Rowling Speaks at Harvard Commencement from Harvard Magazine on Vimeo.
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