Showing posts with label self-confidence. Show all posts
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Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Disturb Me, Please! by Margaret Wheatley

Disturb Me, Please!
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In graduate school, I had one professor who encouraged us to notice what surprised or disturbed us. If we were surprised by some statement, it indicated we were assuming that something else was true. If we were disturbed by a comment, it indicated we held a belief contrary to that. Noticing what disturbs me has been an incredibly useful lens into my interior, deeply held beliefs. When I'm shocked at anther's position, I have the opportunity to see my own position in greater clarity. When I hear myself saying "How could anyone believe something like that?!" a doorway has opened for me to see what I believe. These moments of true disturbance are grehttp://www.blogger.com/post-create.g?blogID=255639545562445290#at gifts. In making my beliefs visible, they allow me to consciously choose them again, or change them.

What if we were to be together and listen to each other's comments with a willingness to expose rather than to confirm our own beliefs and opinions? What if we were to willingly listen to one another with the awareness that we each see the world in unique ways? And with the expectation that I could learn something new if I listen for the differences rather than the similarities?

We have this opportunity many times in a day, everyday. What might we see, what might we learn, what might we create together, if we become this kind of listener, one who enjoys the differences and welcomes in disturbance? I know we would be delightfully startled by how much difference there is. And then we would be wonderfully comforted by how much closer we became, because every time we listen well, we move towards each other. From our new thoughts and our new companions, we would all become wiser.

It would be more fruitful to explore this strange and puzzling world if we were together. It would also be far less frightening and lonely. We would be together, brought together by our differences rather than separated by them. When we are willing to be disturbed by newness rather than clinging to our certainty, when we are willing to truly listen to someone who sees the world differently, then wonderful things happen. We learn that we don't have to agree with each other in order to explore together. There is no need to be joined together at the head, as long as we are joined together at the heart.

Thursday, June 4, 2009

Good Things Come to Those Who Ask by Jack Canfield

Good Things Come to Those Who Ask
by Jack Canfield

Asking for what you need is probably the most underutilized tool for people. And yet, amazing requests have been granted to people simply because they've asked for it!

Whether its money, information, support, assistance, or time, most people are afraid to ask for what they need in order to make their dreams come true.

They might be afraid of looking needy, ignorant, helpless, or even greedy. More than likely though, it is the fear of rejection that is holding them back. Even though they are afraid to hear the word no, they're already saying it to themselves by not asking!

Do you ask for what you want or are you afraid of rejection?


Consider this: Rejection is just a concept. There is really no such thing as rejection! You're not any worse off by hearing no than you were before you asked. You didn't have what you asked for before you asked and you still don't, so what did you lose?

Being rejected doesn't hold you back from anything. Only YOU hold yourself back. When you realize that there's no merit to rejection, you'll feel more comfortable asking for things. You may just need a bit of help learning how to ask for what you want.

How to Ask for What You Want


There's a specific science to asking for and getting what you want or need in life. And while I recommend you learn more by studying The Aladdin Factor, here are some quick tips to get you started:

1. Ask as if you expect to get it. Ask with a positive expectation. Ask from the place that you have already been given it. It is a done deal. Ask as if you expect to get a "yes."

2. Assume you can.
Don't start with the assumption that you can't get it. If you are going to assume, assume you can get an upgrade. Assume you can get a table by the window. Assume that you can return it without a sales slip. Assume that you can get a scholarship, that you can get a raise, that you can get tickets at this late date. Don't ever assume against yourself.

3. Ask someone who can give it to you. Qualify the person. Who would I have to speak to to get...Who is authorized to make a decision about...What would have to happen for me to get...

4. Be clear and specific.
In my seminars, I often ask, "Who wants more money in their life?" I'll pick someone who raised their hand and give them a quarter, asking, "Is that enough for you?" "No? Well, how would I know how much you want. How would anybody know?"

You need to ask for a specific number. Too many people are walking around wanting more of something, but not being specific enough to obtain it.

5. Ask repeatedly. One of the most important Success Principles is the commitment to not give up.

Whenever we're asking others to participate in the fulfillment of our goals, some people are going to say "no." They may have other priorities, commitments and reasons not to participate. It's no reflection on you.

Just get used to the idea that there's going to be a lot of rejection along the way to the brass ring. The key is to not give up. When someone says "No"-- you say "NEXT!" Why?

Because when you keep on asking, even the same person again and again...they might say "yes"...

...on a different day
...when they are in a better mood
...when you have new data to present
...after you've proven your commitment to them
...when circumstances have changed
...when you've learned how to close better
...when you've established better rapport
...when they trust you more
...when you have paid your dues
...when the economy is better
...and so on.

Kids know this Success Principle better than anyone. They will ask the same person over and over again without any hesitation (can you relate!).

Getting a good perspective on rejection and learning how to ask will make a world of difference for you as you work toward your goals. Practice asking and you'll get very good at it! You'll even speed your progress by getting what you need, or improving yourself in order to get it later.

Make a list of what you need to ask for in all areas of your life, and start asking.

Remember, ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE... if you dare to ask!

© 2009 Jack Canfield

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Monday, June 1, 2009

Wise Words by Norman Vincent Peale

"We've all heard that we have to learn from our mistakes, but I think it's more important to learn from successes. If you learn only from your mistakes, you are inclined to learn only errors."

Norman Vincent Peale
1898-1993, Pastor and Author

Sunday, May 31, 2009

Dare to be Yourself ... by Paul Hoffman

Who am I? What do I want? What level of consciousness am I living from? These are great questions to ask yourself as you begin to usher in the dawn of a new day. The absolute truth in answering these questions is simply you are brilliant, magnificent, genius, caring, loving, kind, extraordinary, unstoppable, successful, creative, giving, generous, supportive, nurturing, confident you get the picture. You are all these qualities and so much more in every moment of your day. I ask you today to "Dare To Be Yourself" and bring out all these awesome qualities and values of who you are in all you do. When you do, life will begin to take on a new color and vibration of abundance and prosperity in every aspect of your being so that the person you really are emerges powerfully in all your relationships as you communicate the joy of being who you are.

There is no holding back the divine inspiration that you are. You can only be that which you believe you are. When you lose focus and clarity about the true authentic being you are then thoughts of lack and limitation creep in. You must have the courage to be steadfast in your commitment to living in your excellence. You must have the determination to stay the course in the journey you have chosen so that the vision in your heart becomes your reality. You must believe in yourself so you will receive all the divine intelligence that is encouraging you to keep stepping into your brilliance. There can be no other way to be. It is all within you right here and now to have it all. All you need to to do is "Dare To Be Yourself" and watch as the most amazing thing happens. YOU will be given the keys to the castle and your life will become all that you have dreamed it could be. Try it you'll like it!

"The first choice you should make each day is to be committed to be the blessing you are so that everyone will get to share in the magnificence of who you are."

I AM ready to show up in all my power
I AM open to the calling of my heart
My dream is the reality I see in my life today
I AM committed to the full expression of who I AM
I see the road ahead with focus and clarity
I AM full of infinite opportunities and possibilities
There is magic everywhere
I LOVE ME!

It's your day...MAKE IT A GREAT ONE!


-Paul Hoffman

Sunday, May 17, 2009

"Everyone is searching for happiness ..." by Dick Sutphen

Everyone is searching for happiness, but happiness is found internally, not externally. It is generated by finding enjoyment in pursuing your goals, by accepting what is, and by believing in yourself.

Dick Sutphen

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

Get Off the Couch by Ron White

The legendary Jack LaLanne is 94 years old and fit. He still lifts weights and swims each day. He also has a purpose. He wants to transform every American into a fit, healthy machine. So what can you learn from the founding father of fitness?

Anything in life is possible. You control your life—it’s all up to you. The food you eat today is walking and talking tomorrow. You have to ask yourself, ‘What can I do to help myself?’ ”

A strong will and a belief in yourself
are all it takes to achieve whatever goal you’ve set for yourself.

“Everyone is a genius in his own way, but you have to bring it out to make it happen. You have to work at it and you have to believe. You can’t just dream your way to success.”

Believe in what you are doing.
“People line up after motivational talks to thank me. That’s my reward; it’s not about money.”

Ron White

Tuesday, April 21, 2009

"Being happy ..." By Lionel Ketchian

Being happy is the well being that comes from a balanced mind. The more control of our thinking we have, the more our mind is not always telling us what we should be doing. We can then start to experience more happiness. As Aristotle said, "It is the mark of an educated mind to entertain a thought without accepting it." If we cannot stop our thoughts from always telling us what to think about or what to react to then we are not in control of ourselves. This is the reason we feel that doing things will get us where we think we need to be. The truth is we really don't need to do anything or go anywhere. If we start right where we are now, we can begin to realize we have everything we need to be happy. What are we missing? The realization that we have everything we need to start being happy right now. Ask yourself: Is that thought serving me?

HAPPINESS QUOTES

When you are unhappy, you've allowed yourself to be framed. When you are in a frame it is impossible to see the whole picture. See the big picture and stay happy.
- Lionel Ketchian

What is happiness?
It is unconditional acceptance of life, the good, the bad, and the ugly. Once we can understand unconditional happiness we can love, and be loved. Part of what I am talking about is accepting yourself for all your parts, the good, the bad, and the ugly. Once you do that you realize you are good enough. In fact you're perfect! When you feel good about yourself it is then that you can improve yourself. In fact Being Happy is the best self-improvement exercise that I know of.
- Lionel Ketchian

Tuesday, April 14, 2009

AUTOBIOGRAPHY IN FIVE SHORT CHAPTERS by Portia Nelson

AUTOBIOGRAPHY IN FIVE SHORT CHAPTERS
by Portia Nelson


CHAPTER I


I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I fall in.
I am lost … I am helpless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes me forever to find a way out.


CHAPTER II


I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in the same place
but, it isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.


CHAPTER III


I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in … it’s a habit.
my eyes are open
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.


CHAPTER IV


I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.


CHAPTER V



I walk down another street.


THE END


Today take another street!

Wednesday, April 8, 2009

Negative Emotions Can Turn Into Fears ... by Angie Sierra

Negative Emotions Can Turn Into Fears ... by Angie Sierra

I’d like to share a true story with you:

There was a little girl who admired and respected her father. She always enjoyed watching him work around the house.

One sat. evening, her father was working on an ongoing complicated project in the garage. He was tired, frustrated, irritated and didn’t want to be bothered.

The daughter (unaware of how her father was feeling at that exact time) walked inside the garage in a exciting, care free and happy mood.

Watching him from a distance, she decided to impress her father and work on her own little project. So she picked up a hammer, a small nail, a piece of wood and began to hit the nail with the hammer.

She was doing well until she missed the nail and instead hit her finger.

Holding back her tears from the pain & throbbing of her finger,she grabbed the hammer to try again, her father yanked the hammer from her hands and yelled at her saying: “You don’t know how to do anything! just get out of here! And leave me Alone!”...

Even though our parents or guardians were our first teachers, we can not blame or get upset on how they raised us. Being a parent or guardian does not come with instructions.

There actions toward you were based on how they were raised, how they were discipline, how they were treated or mistreated, and how they were loved.

Some parents had a hard upbringing and learned from there experiences, overcame them and vowed never to treat there children the way they were mistreated, others kept there emotions locked away, not knowing/understanding how to approach or handle there emotions.

You see the father lashed out with anger not because of his daughter but because of how he was feeling and took it out on his daughter. The bad news is the little girl heard and believed every word he said...

Experiences like this can stay with you for many years and the negative emotions at a young age can easily turn into fears as we grow. That’s what happened in this case.

As she grew into a teenager, she became extremely shy. She didn’t talk very much and kept to herself. In school she never volunteered for any thing because she was afraid to mess up and believed no one wanted her around...

This story was based on one of my personal experiences.

The feeling of never being good enough has always been a struggle. A battle within myself of either trying my hardest to accomplish or being afraid to succeed. but
The understanding I got after working on myself first (healing) was by far most important in improving my entire life.

Can you recall of a moment or moments that may have had a negative impact through out your life?

Write about it in your journal...


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Monday, April 6, 2009

Resolve to Evolve by Paul Hoffman

Resolve to Evolve by Paul Hoffman

Are you willing to grow and transform your life today into exactly what you dream it can be? Do you have the determination and the confidence it takes to walk through any challenge and realize the opportunity that is being presented to you? Will you see the blessing by knowing that within you you have everything you need to create the most amazing life? I believe that this is the truth of who we are. All it takes is a self-loving nudge for yourself to be able to release and let go of the limiting beliefs we sometimes are holding on to so that we begin to see and feel the powerful presence that is who we are. You are unique and special and when you have the "Resolve To Evolve" into the gifted person you are any false sense of being something else will drift away and what remains is a confident and certain knowingness that you can have it all.

Each day we are presented with the gifts of creation. We get to choose the path we want to journey down and the kinds of relationships we want to hold dear to our hearts. It is through the decisions we make from the mindset of free will that what we want becomes the essence of who we are. We don't need to know how things will happen we just need to know what we want to happen. Life is all about growing and transforming. We are all a work in progress as we learn every step of the way how to be more and more of who we are. Stay in the vibration of unconditional love today and share your brilliance. be supportive of others. Give the gift of you seeking nothing in return. When you allow yourself the permission to claim your greatness the garden of your life will be filled with healthy and positive activities that will bring you closer and closer to creating a world that works for everyone and you will be truly manifesting in your life the dream in your heart.

"The transformation of you begins with the decision to be who you really are and not some limiting belief of who you think you are."

I AM in perfect harmony with the calling of my life
I release any judgment and I can't do consciousness
In my mind I see the beautiful vision of my dream
I know that MY dream is really my reality
All the blessings of this new day are food for my unfoldment
The smorgasboard of my life wets my creative appetite
I am absolutely ready to have it all!

It's your day...MAKE IT A GREAT ONE!

Saturday, April 4, 2009

"Worrying is the same thing as banging your head against the wall. It only feels good when you stop." — John Powers

"Worrying is the same thing as banging your head against the wall. It only feels good when you stop." — John Powers: Author and motivational speaker

There are only a handful of dangerous creatures on the planet that can do as much harm as we do to ourselves through worry. If we allow too much worry into our lives, it affects our mind, our health, our bodies, and our motivation. It can essentially paralyze us. But while its side effects are awful, the remedy is quick and painless. Cure yourself of worry by injecting confidence into your life and by following an unbeatable plan.

John Powers