The Magic Of Creating Your Own Reality
By Kate Corbin
"We want you to show yourself your power. We want you to remember who you are. We want you to remember that you are the creator of your own experience." -- Abraham-Hicks
How do you feel when someone says to you, "You know, you create your own reality." If you're looking at a reality you like, you probably smile and say, "Yeah, I did that!" If you're looking at a reality you don't like, you may get upset and insist, "I did NOT create THAT! I would NEVER have created THAT!"
Well, according to the Law of Attraction, you ARE creating your own reality. In fact, you're creating your reality all day every day with your thoughts and feelings. The all-important question then becomes: Are you creating consciously or are you creating by default?
The reality you perceive is a mirror reflecting back to you a picture of what you're thinking and feeling. The good news is that, even if you don't particularly like the picture you've created so far, you can begin immediately to improve it. As you learn how to consciously create your own reality, it is no longer necessary to accept unpleasant circumstances or settle for less than the life you truly desire.
Because nothing is fixed and everything changes all the time, you can start right now creating the reality you truly desire, building your life thought by thought, as surely as a mason builds a house brick by brick. When you choose thoughts that feel good, you manifest circumstances that feel good. Therefore, consciously creating your own reality starts with directing your thoughts toward what feels good.
As you make the connection between what you're thinking and feeling and what's manifesting in your experience, you create from a place of confidence and empowerment rather than from a place of doubt and fear.
"The best way to predict the future is to create it." - Abraham Lincoln
Consciously creating your own reality is really just a matter of applying the LOA principles you already know - perhaps with a new understanding - maybe in a more purposeful way.
Here are some tips to help you design and create your life in accordance with your own desires, to help you manifest more of what you want and less of what you don't want:
* Make feeling good the most important thing.
* Notice how you feel and choose thoughts that feel better.
* Find things to appreciate.
* Be as present as possible.
* Be as happy as possible.
* Accept your inherent worthiness.
* Maintain positive expectation.
* Listen for and take inspired action toward your desire.
* Focus on what you want and why you want it, letting go of how, where, when, and who.
* Hold fast to your dream even when there's no physical evidence that it's happening.
* Change your vibration rather than trying to change your circumstances.
* Have fun and follow your bliss.
* Relax and trust that all is well and that everything is unfolding perfectly.
"We magnetize into our lives whatever we hold in our thought." - Richard Bach
As you accept that you create your world with your thoughts and feelings - and that YOU are in charge of those thoughts and feelings - you become the Master Creator of your own precious life. As you consciously apply the Magic of Creating Your Own Reality, you will soon find yourself living in a magical Universe where dreams really do come true!
Kate Corbin is a Law of Attraction Life Coach and the creator of Gold Star Coaching. Both her coaching practice and her books - Dining at the Cosmic Café: How to Be and Do and Have Whatever You Desire as well as Think and Grow Thin with the Law of Attraction - http://www.goldstarcoaching.com/ebook.html are designed to empower you to truly live the life of your dreams. To contact Coach Kate, check out her books, and subscribe to her free ezine, Magical Musings, visit http://www.goldstarcoaching.com/
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Wednesday, February 17, 2010
Reality Check: Whose Reality Is It Anyway? by Marilyn Jenett
Reality Check: Whose Reality Is It Anyway? by Marilyn Jenett
Today, President's Day in the United States , we commemorate the birthdays of the great American Presidents George Washington and Abraham Lincoln. Both men expressed a quality that represents our highest nature and finest character - that of honesty and truth. Most of us have heard the story of the young boy who chopped down his father's beloved cherry tree but could not lie about it - which meant more to his father than a thousand valuable trees. And Honest Abe earned his nickname as a young store clerk who would walk miles to return a few cents if he accidently short-changed a customer and who insisted on utmost integrity later in his law career.
In the spirit of honesty, I would like to address the idea of truth vs. lies in your life and consciousness with this chapter from my upcoming book...
Reality Check: Whose Reality Is It Anyway?
In the beginning of the Feel Free to Prosper program, I ask my students to explore and share their core feelings and beliefs about their relationship to money and prosperity.
Now, this is a REAL reality check -- or we might call this a prosperity reality check.
If you think that in some way life has stacked the odds against you, if you feel that there isn't a level playing field for success, if you feel challenged in your ability to succeed, then I strongly recommend that you not only read my words carefully in this chapter, but also review the biography at the end of the chapter -- the biography of a woman who, in my opinion, is one of the greatest inspirations of all time.
Whose Reality Is It Anyway?
So, let's say that you have discovered your core belief (or beliefs) about money and prosperity. Now what are we going to do about it?
Well, first I am going to tell you the important truth about those negative beliefs. The truth is . . . your beliefs are a lie. A lie.
The interesting part is that as long as you keep accepting those beliefs, they remain YOUR lie that colors and predicts your reality, so in essence they become YOUR truth. That is, what you believe to be true. Your life experience is the outcropping of your accepted (false) truth. Your circumstances and outer appearances only serve to perpetuate this "truth" and to further "prove" that it is so. And thus the lie keeps feeding itself. You are hypnotized.
Then, when you attempt to consider the possibility of abundance and success for yourself, that's when you feel like you are lying to yourself.
Well, I have news for you. Those beliefs that you have expressed are not at all related to the real you. They are not who you are. They do not represent the talents, the abilities, the qualities or the essence of the person that you are -- the real you.
They represent negative false beliefs that you acquired throughout your lifetime and that were instilled in your mind by others, even when you were very young. You unconsciously made those beliefs your own.
The nature of the subconscious mind is that it will create and produce for you according to the ideas it has accepted as reality.
The real you has access to all of the creative forces of the universe because you are an individualized expression of universal mind, infinite intelligence, God. That intelligence gave you your talents and abilities and also gave you the means to fulfill those talents and abilities.
So I Ask You . . . Whose Reality Is It Anyway?
How do you tune in and become who you really are?
The first step to victory is to recognize those false beliefs for what they are -- the lie. They are NOT the truth about you. They are the lie. The fact that you cannot attract money or clients or success in your business is a great big lie.
I would like to go back in time here...
One of my early students was owed quite a bit of money from a former employer and they had refused to pay for over a year. Any effort she made to collect failed. Then we met and she began the Feel Free to Prosper program. Shortly after the second lesson, she was able to get a mediation date in court. I prepared her for this welcome opportunity. At the court proceeding, the insurance company for the employer adamantly refused to pay, although my student carefully kept her cool and focused her attention on prosperity thoughts as the attorneys and judge interacted. The judge finally said he would take the ruling under submission until the following week, but it was obvious that the employer's representatives were not budging.
My student had to wait for an entire week and insecurities started to set in. Her core belief was that she was meant to struggle, that "winning" this ruling in her favor would be too good to be true. She said she kept hearing an inner voice telling her this.
Although I normally endorse using only positive words in our study and don't even like to use the word lie, I found myself spontaneously telling her that what she was hearing was that old subconscious "tape" playing over and over in her mind and that she must recognize it for what it was -- it was the lie! The truth was that she is a child of the Universe and entitled to all of the supply and abundance that she could have if she could keep her mind open to receive.
That did it for her. Whenever those old conditioned thoughts would come, she would remind herself that that was the lie and she would again become centered.
Here is the story in her own words as posted on the Feel Free to Prosper Network:
"Hello fellow financial coaching groupies!
"I had a productive week in regards to our lesson plans and tangible results. Shall I say more ???!
"When I saw Marilyn's announcement of the FFTP program, I just knew that it was the perfect pole vault to take me over the top. It was just a gut feeling. I am moving into a new phase of my career and Marilyn's insight and solid lesson plans were just the right distraction to bring me to the next level. And thus far it's succeeding. Without getting into too much mundane detail, I had a leftover challenge from an employer of more than one year ago. They owed me $$, refused to pay, and I was determined not to give back my income to them by walking away because there was a clear right and wrong issue here.
"Well, after a year, I finally got my 'day in court' so to speak (more of a mediation). What was exceptional is that I had just gotten Marilyn's second lesson and had gone over half of it when this happened. The day in court was long and arduous. Also exceptional was what I did with my time. I relied heavily on my affirmations, and during long periods of time when I was alone and the pressure was on, I developed a meditation that was inspired by Marilyn and our Lesson Two. I focused on an object and really felt, thought and visualized that I was a magnet for lots of money and that the magnetic energy that I was putting out there was getting stronger and stronger. When I got nervous, I would move back into that space of just concentrating on the magnetic energy I was giving out. When negative thoughts would trickle in, I would just tell myself that they are a 'lie' because they are! That was customized by Marilyn for me and was of enormous help.
Several days later, I found out that everything was settled and I got a big chunk o'money!! Now with that chapter behind me, I can clearly focus on my career goals in terms of financial success. I can't wait for the next lessons to unfold!
"Thank you, Marilyn!"
Now, here are some more truths about your negative beliefs - one or more of these may apply to you:
You are comfortable with them. After all, they are familiar, aren't they -- even if you weren't aware of what they specifically were, they have become "second nature," haven't they?
You might feel you are stuck with these beliefs -- there is nothing you can do about them so that you might as well make the best of it.
These beliefs might provide the excuse or justification for not moving forward, even succeeding.
You might feel that if you just keep going along like you are with these beliefs, that things will just get better somehow and you might have some lucky breaks to get you where you want to go.
None of the above factors will produce money and success for you. You must now make a conscious choice to become aware of your false beliefs and recognize them for what they are -- blatant false beliefs. Lies that you no longer wish to apply to your life and that in no way serve you.
You must take the upper hand and make a stand for what you want to create in your life. It is a choice. It must no longer be an unconscious choice. It must be a conscious choice and you must now become the boss. You and only you must decide...
Whose Reality Is It Anyway?
If the following biography does not touch and inspire you in some way, then I will admit that you are beyond the scope of my abilities as a mentor. But I am certain you will understand why I am including this . . .
"Helen Keller (1880 - 1968), is an outstanding example of a person who conquered physical disabilities. A serious illness, which her doctor called 'acute congestion of the stomach and brain,' destroyed her sight and hearing at the age of about 1 ½. Because of this, she could not speak and was entirely shut off from the world. But she rose above her disabilities to gain international fame and to help disabled people live fuller lives.
"For almost five years, she grew up, as she later said, 'wild and unruly, giggling and chuckling to express pleasure; kicking, scratching, uttering the choked screams of the deaf -- mute to indicate the opposite.' Then Helen's father took her to Alexander Graham Bell. He advised Keller to write to the Perkins Institution for the Blind in Boston (now Perkins School for the Blind in Watertown , Massachusetts ). Shortly before the child was 7, Anne Sullivan arrived from Boston to teach her. Sullivan had been nearly blind during childhood, but surgery in 1881 and 1887 partially restored her sight. She later married John A. Macy, but she remained with Helen Keller until her death. Then Mary Agnes 'Polly' Thomson, who had been Keller's secretary, took Sullivan's place.
"She Learns to Write. Sullivan was able to make contact with the girl's mind through the sense of touch. She used a manual alphabet by which she spelled out words on Helen's hand. Gradually, the child was able to connect words with objects. Once she understood, her progress was rapid. Within three years, she knew the alphabet and could read and write in Braille.
"She Learns to Speak. Until she was 10 years old, Keller could talk only with sign language. She decided she would learn to speak and took lessons from a teacher of the deaf. By the time she was 16, she could communicate well enough to go to preparatory school and to college. She chose Radcliffe, from which she graduated in 1904 with honors. Sullivan stayed with her through these years, interpreting lectures and class discussions for her.
"She Helps Others. After college, Keller became concerned with the conditions of the blind and the deaf -- blind. She became active on the staffs of the American Foundation for the Blind and of the American Foundation for Overseas Blind. She appeared before legislatures, gave lectures, and wrote many books and articles. She started the Helen Keller Endowment Fund and asked for funds from wealthy people.
"Keller became especially interested in bettering conditions for the blind in developing and war -- ravaged nations. An enthusiastic and untiring traveler, she lectured in their behalf in over 25 nations throughout the world. During World War II (1939-1945), Keller worked with soldiers who had been blinded in the war. Wherever she appeared, she brought new courage to blind people.
"Keller received many awards of great distinction. They included the Chevalier's ribbon of the French Legion of Honor, the Alumni Achievement Award of Radcliffe College, and decorations from many governments.
"Keller's books have been translated into more than 50 languages. They include The Story of My Life (1902); Optimism (1903); The World I Live In (1908); The Song of the Stone Wall (1910); Out of the Dark (1913); My Religion (1929); and Midstream: My Later Life (1930). Teacher (1955) tells of Sullivan. The motion picture Helen Keller in Her Story told the story of Keller's life. The play The Miracle Worker (1959) and its motion-picture adaptation (1962) described how Sullivan made contact with Keller through the sense of touch. Helen Adams Keller was born on June 27, 1880, in Tuscumbia , Alabama . She died on June 1, 1968." [1]
Again I Ask...Whose Reality Is It Anyway?
~ Marilyn
Today, President's Day in the United States , we commemorate the birthdays of the great American Presidents George Washington and Abraham Lincoln. Both men expressed a quality that represents our highest nature and finest character - that of honesty and truth. Most of us have heard the story of the young boy who chopped down his father's beloved cherry tree but could not lie about it - which meant more to his father than a thousand valuable trees. And Honest Abe earned his nickname as a young store clerk who would walk miles to return a few cents if he accidently short-changed a customer and who insisted on utmost integrity later in his law career.
In the spirit of honesty, I would like to address the idea of truth vs. lies in your life and consciousness with this chapter from my upcoming book...
Reality Check: Whose Reality Is It Anyway?
In the beginning of the Feel Free to Prosper program, I ask my students to explore and share their core feelings and beliefs about their relationship to money and prosperity.
Now, this is a REAL reality check -- or we might call this a prosperity reality check.
If you think that in some way life has stacked the odds against you, if you feel that there isn't a level playing field for success, if you feel challenged in your ability to succeed, then I strongly recommend that you not only read my words carefully in this chapter, but also review the biography at the end of the chapter -- the biography of a woman who, in my opinion, is one of the greatest inspirations of all time.
Whose Reality Is It Anyway?
So, let's say that you have discovered your core belief (or beliefs) about money and prosperity. Now what are we going to do about it?
Well, first I am going to tell you the important truth about those negative beliefs. The truth is . . . your beliefs are a lie. A lie.
The interesting part is that as long as you keep accepting those beliefs, they remain YOUR lie that colors and predicts your reality, so in essence they become YOUR truth. That is, what you believe to be true. Your life experience is the outcropping of your accepted (false) truth. Your circumstances and outer appearances only serve to perpetuate this "truth" and to further "prove" that it is so. And thus the lie keeps feeding itself. You are hypnotized.
Then, when you attempt to consider the possibility of abundance and success for yourself, that's when you feel like you are lying to yourself.
Well, I have news for you. Those beliefs that you have expressed are not at all related to the real you. They are not who you are. They do not represent the talents, the abilities, the qualities or the essence of the person that you are -- the real you.
They represent negative false beliefs that you acquired throughout your lifetime and that were instilled in your mind by others, even when you were very young. You unconsciously made those beliefs your own.
The nature of the subconscious mind is that it will create and produce for you according to the ideas it has accepted as reality.
The real you has access to all of the creative forces of the universe because you are an individualized expression of universal mind, infinite intelligence, God. That intelligence gave you your talents and abilities and also gave you the means to fulfill those talents and abilities.
So I Ask You . . . Whose Reality Is It Anyway?
How do you tune in and become who you really are?
The first step to victory is to recognize those false beliefs for what they are -- the lie. They are NOT the truth about you. They are the lie. The fact that you cannot attract money or clients or success in your business is a great big lie.
I would like to go back in time here...
One of my early students was owed quite a bit of money from a former employer and they had refused to pay for over a year. Any effort she made to collect failed. Then we met and she began the Feel Free to Prosper program. Shortly after the second lesson, she was able to get a mediation date in court. I prepared her for this welcome opportunity. At the court proceeding, the insurance company for the employer adamantly refused to pay, although my student carefully kept her cool and focused her attention on prosperity thoughts as the attorneys and judge interacted. The judge finally said he would take the ruling under submission until the following week, but it was obvious that the employer's representatives were not budging.
My student had to wait for an entire week and insecurities started to set in. Her core belief was that she was meant to struggle, that "winning" this ruling in her favor would be too good to be true. She said she kept hearing an inner voice telling her this.
Although I normally endorse using only positive words in our study and don't even like to use the word lie, I found myself spontaneously telling her that what she was hearing was that old subconscious "tape" playing over and over in her mind and that she must recognize it for what it was -- it was the lie! The truth was that she is a child of the Universe and entitled to all of the supply and abundance that she could have if she could keep her mind open to receive.
That did it for her. Whenever those old conditioned thoughts would come, she would remind herself that that was the lie and she would again become centered.
Here is the story in her own words as posted on the Feel Free to Prosper Network:
"Hello fellow financial coaching groupies!
"I had a productive week in regards to our lesson plans and tangible results. Shall I say more ???!
"When I saw Marilyn's announcement of the FFTP program, I just knew that it was the perfect pole vault to take me over the top. It was just a gut feeling. I am moving into a new phase of my career and Marilyn's insight and solid lesson plans were just the right distraction to bring me to the next level. And thus far it's succeeding. Without getting into too much mundane detail, I had a leftover challenge from an employer of more than one year ago. They owed me $$, refused to pay, and I was determined not to give back my income to them by walking away because there was a clear right and wrong issue here.
"Well, after a year, I finally got my 'day in court' so to speak (more of a mediation). What was exceptional is that I had just gotten Marilyn's second lesson and had gone over half of it when this happened. The day in court was long and arduous. Also exceptional was what I did with my time. I relied heavily on my affirmations, and during long periods of time when I was alone and the pressure was on, I developed a meditation that was inspired by Marilyn and our Lesson Two. I focused on an object and really felt, thought and visualized that I was a magnet for lots of money and that the magnetic energy that I was putting out there was getting stronger and stronger. When I got nervous, I would move back into that space of just concentrating on the magnetic energy I was giving out. When negative thoughts would trickle in, I would just tell myself that they are a 'lie' because they are! That was customized by Marilyn for me and was of enormous help.
Several days later, I found out that everything was settled and I got a big chunk o'money!! Now with that chapter behind me, I can clearly focus on my career goals in terms of financial success. I can't wait for the next lessons to unfold!
"Thank you, Marilyn!"
Now, here are some more truths about your negative beliefs - one or more of these may apply to you:
You are comfortable with them. After all, they are familiar, aren't they -- even if you weren't aware of what they specifically were, they have become "second nature," haven't they?
You might feel you are stuck with these beliefs -- there is nothing you can do about them so that you might as well make the best of it.
These beliefs might provide the excuse or justification for not moving forward, even succeeding.
You might feel that if you just keep going along like you are with these beliefs, that things will just get better somehow and you might have some lucky breaks to get you where you want to go.
None of the above factors will produce money and success for you. You must now make a conscious choice to become aware of your false beliefs and recognize them for what they are -- blatant false beliefs. Lies that you no longer wish to apply to your life and that in no way serve you.
You must take the upper hand and make a stand for what you want to create in your life. It is a choice. It must no longer be an unconscious choice. It must be a conscious choice and you must now become the boss. You and only you must decide...
Whose Reality Is It Anyway?
If the following biography does not touch and inspire you in some way, then I will admit that you are beyond the scope of my abilities as a mentor. But I am certain you will understand why I am including this . . .
"Helen Keller (1880 - 1968), is an outstanding example of a person who conquered physical disabilities. A serious illness, which her doctor called 'acute congestion of the stomach and brain,' destroyed her sight and hearing at the age of about 1 ½. Because of this, she could not speak and was entirely shut off from the world. But she rose above her disabilities to gain international fame and to help disabled people live fuller lives.
"For almost five years, she grew up, as she later said, 'wild and unruly, giggling and chuckling to express pleasure; kicking, scratching, uttering the choked screams of the deaf -- mute to indicate the opposite.' Then Helen's father took her to Alexander Graham Bell. He advised Keller to write to the Perkins Institution for the Blind in Boston (now Perkins School for the Blind in Watertown , Massachusetts ). Shortly before the child was 7, Anne Sullivan arrived from Boston to teach her. Sullivan had been nearly blind during childhood, but surgery in 1881 and 1887 partially restored her sight. She later married John A. Macy, but she remained with Helen Keller until her death. Then Mary Agnes 'Polly' Thomson, who had been Keller's secretary, took Sullivan's place.
"She Learns to Write. Sullivan was able to make contact with the girl's mind through the sense of touch. She used a manual alphabet by which she spelled out words on Helen's hand. Gradually, the child was able to connect words with objects. Once she understood, her progress was rapid. Within three years, she knew the alphabet and could read and write in Braille.
"She Learns to Speak. Until she was 10 years old, Keller could talk only with sign language. She decided she would learn to speak and took lessons from a teacher of the deaf. By the time she was 16, she could communicate well enough to go to preparatory school and to college. She chose Radcliffe, from which she graduated in 1904 with honors. Sullivan stayed with her through these years, interpreting lectures and class discussions for her.
"She Helps Others. After college, Keller became concerned with the conditions of the blind and the deaf -- blind. She became active on the staffs of the American Foundation for the Blind and of the American Foundation for Overseas Blind. She appeared before legislatures, gave lectures, and wrote many books and articles. She started the Helen Keller Endowment Fund and asked for funds from wealthy people.
"Keller became especially interested in bettering conditions for the blind in developing and war -- ravaged nations. An enthusiastic and untiring traveler, she lectured in their behalf in over 25 nations throughout the world. During World War II (1939-1945), Keller worked with soldiers who had been blinded in the war. Wherever she appeared, she brought new courage to blind people.
"Keller received many awards of great distinction. They included the Chevalier's ribbon of the French Legion of Honor, the Alumni Achievement Award of Radcliffe College, and decorations from many governments.
"Keller's books have been translated into more than 50 languages. They include The Story of My Life (1902); Optimism (1903); The World I Live In (1908); The Song of the Stone Wall (1910); Out of the Dark (1913); My Religion (1929); and Midstream: My Later Life (1930). Teacher (1955) tells of Sullivan. The motion picture Helen Keller in Her Story told the story of Keller's life. The play The Miracle Worker (1959) and its motion-picture adaptation (1962) described how Sullivan made contact with Keller through the sense of touch. Helen Adams Keller was born on June 27, 1880, in Tuscumbia , Alabama . She died on June 1, 1968." [1]
Again I Ask...Whose Reality Is It Anyway?
~ Marilyn
Thursday, April 16, 2009
The money factor in male attraction
The money factor in male attraction
Why do women love rich men? This question seems to baffle and infuriate men, yet the answer is so simple and logical. As a result, men label women all manner of names from ‘hoe’ to ‘gold digger’.
They refuse to believe that women are attracted to men with money less by a love for money than due to her genetic make-up. So today I will try and enlighten all men so that, the next time a woman leaves you for a richer man, you can blame it on her maternal instincts and not be so quick to judge her.
Every woman is born with some form of maternal instincts. The purpose is to enable her to effectively pick out the perfect mate. With the perfect mate she bears children and expects to not only be sufficiently provided for but that her offspring will also be well provided for. So while picking her mate one of the most important requirements is that the man can provide well. In primitive society, the law of the jungle prevailed and the strongest man ruled over the weak.
His strength represented power and thus he had more resources than the weaker men. As a result he had more women admirers. Women couldn’t get enough of his resource pool and he often had more than one wife. His wives were usually considered the most beautiful in the land.
Today money as opposed to sheer strength represents power and the man who has it makes the rules. On top of the power they wield, rich men have some qualities that men without it often lack. Rich men are often very confident, they have a sexy swagger that seems only come with money, and they dress well. Plus they seem to know what they want and where they are going life. They make a woman feel like they can make the world stop if only she were to ask.
Their money means that they have power and power means that whichever woman they choose will be sufficiently provided for and her kids will have the best of everything. Unfortunately for men, we are living in a material world and we are all material girls. Thus whoever makes the money will get all the girls. So if you want a good woman or want to keep your woman, you better make that ‘paper’.
Resource Pool @ view link
Why do women love rich men? This question seems to baffle and infuriate men, yet the answer is so simple and logical. As a result, men label women all manner of names from ‘hoe’ to ‘gold digger’.
They refuse to believe that women are attracted to men with money less by a love for money than due to her genetic make-up. So today I will try and enlighten all men so that, the next time a woman leaves you for a richer man, you can blame it on her maternal instincts and not be so quick to judge her.
Every woman is born with some form of maternal instincts. The purpose is to enable her to effectively pick out the perfect mate. With the perfect mate she bears children and expects to not only be sufficiently provided for but that her offspring will also be well provided for. So while picking her mate one of the most important requirements is that the man can provide well. In primitive society, the law of the jungle prevailed and the strongest man ruled over the weak.
His strength represented power and thus he had more resources than the weaker men. As a result he had more women admirers. Women couldn’t get enough of his resource pool and he often had more than one wife. His wives were usually considered the most beautiful in the land.
Today money as opposed to sheer strength represents power and the man who has it makes the rules. On top of the power they wield, rich men have some qualities that men without it often lack. Rich men are often very confident, they have a sexy swagger that seems only come with money, and they dress well. Plus they seem to know what they want and where they are going life. They make a woman feel like they can make the world stop if only she were to ask.
Their money means that they have power and power means that whichever woman they choose will be sufficiently provided for and her kids will have the best of everything. Unfortunately for men, we are living in a material world and we are all material girls. Thus whoever makes the money will get all the girls. So if you want a good woman or want to keep your woman, you better make that ‘paper’.
Resource Pool @ view link
Tuesday, April 14, 2009
Commitment: The Essential Ingredient In Your Relationship - By Dr. Richard Nicastro
Commitment: The Essential Ingredient In Your Relationship - By Dr. Richard Nicastro
Anyone who has run a marathon knows about commitment. To compete, the athlete relies on extensive training and physical fitness. But when the initial enthusiasm wanes and the painful, long-distance realities grip the runner's body, it is sheer dedication -- commitment to completing what she started -- that sustains the runner's motivation as she reaches for the finish line.
A relationship is a lot like running a marathon. There are highs and lows, challenges and rewards, and times when you may want to give up -- when it feels too difficult to continue. What will keep you on track and moving forward when your relationship hits the inevitable rough patch? Will love be enough?
Commitment: Your relationship lifeline
Commitment is a belief in relationship permanence and the understanding that at times your union will need a life-jacket to stay afloat.
When you and your partner are committed to the relationship, the union remains more important then your (and your partner's) individual needs. Without mutual commitment, deep trust will never take root and intimacy will wither. When one person's commitment is tenuous, the very fabric of the relationship is weakened. A lack of commitment reduces the buffer that holds relationships together during times of conflict and stress. Imagine living with the fear that periodic slumps in your relationship can cause your partner to bail.
Trust and deep intimacy will only grow in the soil of commitment.
Commitment has a dual role in your relationship. You can view commitment as the vehicle to help deepen your love, and you can also view it as a safety net of sorts, a way to protect your marriage or relationship during the difficult periods that each and every relationship experiences.
Commitment allows love and intimacy to mature over time. Someone who ends a relationship because the excitement of new love has diminished misses out on the opportunities that relationships bring for individual and mutual growth.
Some erroneously believe that a commitment like "till death do us part" means foolishly locking yourself into a lifetime of potential unhappiness. No one should commit to a relationship that cannot meet their needs. Your needs (and your partner's needs) do matter and should be part of the overall commitment equation. But life and relationships are complicated, and there will be stretches of time when your partner does not meet your needs (and you will not meet your partner's needs). Commitment is what will get you through those rough stretches, enabling each of you to get back on track in meeting each other's needs once again.
All couples (married and unmarried) face an enormous challenge: How to stay devoted to one another throughout the life of your relationship, even when early enthusiasm and euphoria naturally wane.
Commitment is a very personal process. Unfortunately, for some it will mean blind dedication to a union that rarely meets their needs, while others eschew commitment and impulsively use the ebb and flow of happiness as the gauge whether to stay or leave. Both of these approaches are flawed. Ideally, commitment will remain in place as happiness comes and goes and your relationship finds its footing along life's shifting terrain.
Commitment checklist:
Commit to ________:
...understanding that love grows and deepens over a lifetime.
...acknowledging that all relationships go through ups and downs.
...continuously working toward a meaningful relationship that will transcend momentary happiness.
...working through problems with your partner (while resisting the temptation to get your needs met outside of the relationship).
...finding solutions that will keep your relationship moving forward.
...compromising (even when you think you're right).
...yourself and the relationship.
Don't commit to ________:
...anything that feels abusive.
...always sacrificing what's most important to you.
...the idea that if your relationship requires hard work it means your relationship is flawed.
...the mindset that it's acceptable for your needs to continuously go unmet.
One of the greatest challenges to commitment lies in the instant-gratification mindset -- the idea that you deserve to have what you want when you want it. The settings to our pleasure barometer have been altered, and humans are less willing to deal with frustrating circumstances or anything that feels like it stands in the way of immediate happiness. This poses a problem for relationships.
When you make decisions about your relationship based solely on the need to feel happy (all the time), you abandon commitment and the rich opportunities that are essential for your relationship to grow.
I invite you to think about what commitment means to you. What you are committing to in your marriage or relationship?
About the Author:
Richard Nicastro, Ph.D.
Anyone who has run a marathon knows about commitment. To compete, the athlete relies on extensive training and physical fitness. But when the initial enthusiasm wanes and the painful, long-distance realities grip the runner's body, it is sheer dedication -- commitment to completing what she started -- that sustains the runner's motivation as she reaches for the finish line.
A relationship is a lot like running a marathon. There are highs and lows, challenges and rewards, and times when you may want to give up -- when it feels too difficult to continue. What will keep you on track and moving forward when your relationship hits the inevitable rough patch? Will love be enough?
Commitment: Your relationship lifeline
Commitment is a belief in relationship permanence and the understanding that at times your union will need a life-jacket to stay afloat.
When you and your partner are committed to the relationship, the union remains more important then your (and your partner's) individual needs. Without mutual commitment, deep trust will never take root and intimacy will wither. When one person's commitment is tenuous, the very fabric of the relationship is weakened. A lack of commitment reduces the buffer that holds relationships together during times of conflict and stress. Imagine living with the fear that periodic slumps in your relationship can cause your partner to bail.
Trust and deep intimacy will only grow in the soil of commitment.
Commitment has a dual role in your relationship. You can view commitment as the vehicle to help deepen your love, and you can also view it as a safety net of sorts, a way to protect your marriage or relationship during the difficult periods that each and every relationship experiences.
Commitment allows love and intimacy to mature over time. Someone who ends a relationship because the excitement of new love has diminished misses out on the opportunities that relationships bring for individual and mutual growth.
Some erroneously believe that a commitment like "till death do us part" means foolishly locking yourself into a lifetime of potential unhappiness. No one should commit to a relationship that cannot meet their needs. Your needs (and your partner's needs) do matter and should be part of the overall commitment equation. But life and relationships are complicated, and there will be stretches of time when your partner does not meet your needs (and you will not meet your partner's needs). Commitment is what will get you through those rough stretches, enabling each of you to get back on track in meeting each other's needs once again.
All couples (married and unmarried) face an enormous challenge: How to stay devoted to one another throughout the life of your relationship, even when early enthusiasm and euphoria naturally wane.
Commitment is a very personal process. Unfortunately, for some it will mean blind dedication to a union that rarely meets their needs, while others eschew commitment and impulsively use the ebb and flow of happiness as the gauge whether to stay or leave. Both of these approaches are flawed. Ideally, commitment will remain in place as happiness comes and goes and your relationship finds its footing along life's shifting terrain.
Commitment checklist:
Commit to ________:
...understanding that love grows and deepens over a lifetime.
...acknowledging that all relationships go through ups and downs.
...continuously working toward a meaningful relationship that will transcend momentary happiness.
...working through problems with your partner (while resisting the temptation to get your needs met outside of the relationship).
...finding solutions that will keep your relationship moving forward.
...compromising (even when you think you're right).
...yourself and the relationship.
Don't commit to ________:
...anything that feels abusive.
...always sacrificing what's most important to you.
...the idea that if your relationship requires hard work it means your relationship is flawed.
...the mindset that it's acceptable for your needs to continuously go unmet.
One of the greatest challenges to commitment lies in the instant-gratification mindset -- the idea that you deserve to have what you want when you want it. The settings to our pleasure barometer have been altered, and humans are less willing to deal with frustrating circumstances or anything that feels like it stands in the way of immediate happiness. This poses a problem for relationships.
When you make decisions about your relationship based solely on the need to feel happy (all the time), you abandon commitment and the rich opportunities that are essential for your relationship to grow.
I invite you to think about what commitment means to you. What you are committing to in your marriage or relationship?
About the Author:
Richard Nicastro, Ph.D.
Saturday, April 4, 2009
Let's Think About Thinking by Dick Warn
The Miracle Minute
Let's Think About Thinking by Dick Warn
Harry Lorayne, American memory expert, said, "Thinking clearly and effectively is the greatest asset of any human being."
And, Soren Kierkegaard, Danish philosopher, said, "Our life always expresses the result of our dominant thoughts."
Most people aren't aware of the power of their thoughts. They live outer-directed lives, blaming their environment and other people for their unhappiness. However, the rare few who do find happiness are inner-directed - people who have learned to select the thoughts they entertain.
Your conscious mind sits at a very busy crossroad of random ideas. Some of those ideas are based on absolute truths, yet the vast majority of them are not. What most people assume to be true are often opinions driven by emotional myths based upon absolute garbage.
Common sense isn't common. Truth isn't welcomed at most gatherings. No wonder so many people have lost their way.
William James, American psychologist and author, said, "Why should we think upon things that are lovely? Because thinking determines our life. It is a common habit to blame life upon the environment. Environment modifies life but does not govern life. The soul is stronger than its surroundings."
Dick Warn
Copyright 2009 Richard S. Warn & Associates
www.themiracleminute.com
Let's Think About Thinking by Dick Warn
Harry Lorayne, American memory expert, said, "Thinking clearly and effectively is the greatest asset of any human being."
And, Soren Kierkegaard, Danish philosopher, said, "Our life always expresses the result of our dominant thoughts."
Most people aren't aware of the power of their thoughts. They live outer-directed lives, blaming their environment and other people for their unhappiness. However, the rare few who do find happiness are inner-directed - people who have learned to select the thoughts they entertain.
Your conscious mind sits at a very busy crossroad of random ideas. Some of those ideas are based on absolute truths, yet the vast majority of them are not. What most people assume to be true are often opinions driven by emotional myths based upon absolute garbage.
Common sense isn't common. Truth isn't welcomed at most gatherings. No wonder so many people have lost their way.
William James, American psychologist and author, said, "Why should we think upon things that are lovely? Because thinking determines our life. It is a common habit to blame life upon the environment. Environment modifies life but does not govern life. The soul is stronger than its surroundings."
Dick Warn
Copyright 2009 Richard S. Warn & Associates
www.themiracleminute.com
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
Law of Attraction and the quest for Enlightenment by Palma Bellardoni
When one mentions the Law of Attraction, I have noticed that people have different reactions and a different perception of it. I wonder if it depends on how they learned about it, and what was the source of the material. Some are skeptical about it, and do think that all this “positive thinking” won’t lead to anything - that it is a very naive approach, and that it misleads the masses. Others say that all this wanting to manifest material goods is not spiritual at all, and it’s just a hype that took hold in a society that keeps wanting to accumulate stuff, where people want to learn to manifest just to improve their material life, without looking deeper with the desire to raise their consciousness.
Depending on how you look at it, they are both right and wrong. What I mean is, they are right because there are sources that teach a mostly materialistic or incomplete approach, they are wrong because they did not look at the true spiritual essence of the principles.
Can the Law of Attraction lead to spiritual enlightenment? What is enlightenment anyways?
Buddhism and Enlightenment
According to Buddhist teachings, enlightenment is the extinction of desire and suffering and the disintegration of individual consciousness. It is the realization that the ego is an illusion of the mind, and that we are One consciousness. It is the awakening to the true nature of this Universe. This realization doesn’t stem from a purely intellectual knowledge, but from a real experience of merging into Oneness, a true knowing of the illusion of the ego.
During a Vipassana meditation course, I had a tiny millisecond glimpse of this. It was like a melting away of the body and mind, and a feeling of Oneness and floating energy. I tried to reach that state again, during following sessions, as it was really blissful in that microscopic moment, but could never replicate it. However, the memory of it is there, so I can really relate to the concept. Should I mention that everything went back to (*cough*) normal, with my individual ego being quite happy?
The Law of Attraction and Enlightenment
According to the best teachers - in my opinion - of the Law of Attraction, Abraham-Hicks, enlightenment is an alignment with Source
Enlightenment means literally aligning to the Energy of my Source. And genius is only about focusing. Law of Attraction takes care of everything else. Physical humans often want to make enlightenment about finding some process and moving through the process that has been pre-described. But true enlightenment is moving to the rhythm of the internal inspiration that is coming in response to the individual desire. Enlightenment is about allowing my Connection to the Source that is me for the fulfillment of the things that I have individually defined here in my time-space-reality. That’s as good as it gets! — Abraham
Excerpted from the workshop in Boulder, CO on Saturday, June 7th, 2003
Here, unlike Buddhism, there is no extinction of individual consciousness or desires. They are spiritual in nature and help the Universe expand. The spiritual essence of the Law of Attraction lies in the realization that this is a vibrational Universe, that we are an extension of the One, and are consciousness in physical form, experiencing this time/space reality.
Law of Attraction is not just about “positive thinking”, because there is an understanding of how frequencies resonate, so it’s also about “positive feeling”. Emotions are our tool, or as Abraham says, our “guidance system”, to understand if what we are thinking will take us where we want to be. Those who believe that simply thinking positive won’t do it, are right, but then, they did not understand LOA.
Is wanting to manifest material things, wanting to “have”, spiritual enough? Not according to You are Truly Loved, a blog worth visiting, and I can see the point being made:
The teachings on enlightenment are designed to help point you to the realization that none of that actually matters since it’s all an illusion anyways.
Even Abraham says that it’s not the “having of it” that will lead to happiness. Manifesting things is a way to understand how this Universe works. Being in alignment with Source is a spiritual understanding of the vibrational nature of things. Those who are just teaching the Law of Attraction to attract money, cars and more, are limiting what LOA is really about. Yes, one can have those, but with the understanding of the spiritual nature of that manifestation. It’s just energy in movement.
What, then? Can they both lead to Enlightenment?
The two kinds of “enlightenment” seem to have the opposite premise. No desire/desire, extinction of individual consciousness/expansion of individual consciousness. They do have in common the vibrational view of reality, and that we are Source.
We are one merging Consciousness, where the ego is an illusion of a temporary time/space reality… while we are experiencing this time/space reality, we can acknowledge the vibrational nature of all things, and create a life experience where we are aligned with the One Source. We play with energy, being able to attract things and experiences onto us, while remaining free from attachment to “material” things, because everything is energy anyways… if it’s there, great. If it’s not there, cool, there is an endless stream of energy available.
What is your view of the Law of Attraction, do you agree that it does have a spiritual nature? Is aligning with Source enough for you, to define it as “enlightenment”? Can one still enjoy individual consciousness, with the ultimate realization that there is none?
Posted on Budha Trance Law of Attraction
Depending on how you look at it, they are both right and wrong. What I mean is, they are right because there are sources that teach a mostly materialistic or incomplete approach, they are wrong because they did not look at the true spiritual essence of the principles.
Can the Law of Attraction lead to spiritual enlightenment? What is enlightenment anyways?
Buddhism and Enlightenment
According to Buddhist teachings, enlightenment is the extinction of desire and suffering and the disintegration of individual consciousness. It is the realization that the ego is an illusion of the mind, and that we are One consciousness. It is the awakening to the true nature of this Universe. This realization doesn’t stem from a purely intellectual knowledge, but from a real experience of merging into Oneness, a true knowing of the illusion of the ego.
During a Vipassana meditation course, I had a tiny millisecond glimpse of this. It was like a melting away of the body and mind, and a feeling of Oneness and floating energy. I tried to reach that state again, during following sessions, as it was really blissful in that microscopic moment, but could never replicate it. However, the memory of it is there, so I can really relate to the concept. Should I mention that everything went back to (*cough*) normal, with my individual ego being quite happy?
The Law of Attraction and Enlightenment
According to the best teachers - in my opinion - of the Law of Attraction, Abraham-Hicks, enlightenment is an alignment with Source
Enlightenment means literally aligning to the Energy of my Source. And genius is only about focusing. Law of Attraction takes care of everything else. Physical humans often want to make enlightenment about finding some process and moving through the process that has been pre-described. But true enlightenment is moving to the rhythm of the internal inspiration that is coming in response to the individual desire. Enlightenment is about allowing my Connection to the Source that is me for the fulfillment of the things that I have individually defined here in my time-space-reality. That’s as good as it gets! — Abraham
Excerpted from the workshop in Boulder, CO on Saturday, June 7th, 2003
Here, unlike Buddhism, there is no extinction of individual consciousness or desires. They are spiritual in nature and help the Universe expand. The spiritual essence of the Law of Attraction lies in the realization that this is a vibrational Universe, that we are an extension of the One, and are consciousness in physical form, experiencing this time/space reality.
Law of Attraction is not just about “positive thinking”, because there is an understanding of how frequencies resonate, so it’s also about “positive feeling”. Emotions are our tool, or as Abraham says, our “guidance system”, to understand if what we are thinking will take us where we want to be. Those who believe that simply thinking positive won’t do it, are right, but then, they did not understand LOA.
Is wanting to manifest material things, wanting to “have”, spiritual enough? Not according to You are Truly Loved, a blog worth visiting, and I can see the point being made:
The teachings on enlightenment are designed to help point you to the realization that none of that actually matters since it’s all an illusion anyways.
Even Abraham says that it’s not the “having of it” that will lead to happiness. Manifesting things is a way to understand how this Universe works. Being in alignment with Source is a spiritual understanding of the vibrational nature of things. Those who are just teaching the Law of Attraction to attract money, cars and more, are limiting what LOA is really about. Yes, one can have those, but with the understanding of the spiritual nature of that manifestation. It’s just energy in movement.
What, then? Can they both lead to Enlightenment?
The two kinds of “enlightenment” seem to have the opposite premise. No desire/desire, extinction of individual consciousness/expansion of individual consciousness. They do have in common the vibrational view of reality, and that we are Source.
We are one merging Consciousness, where the ego is an illusion of a temporary time/space reality… while we are experiencing this time/space reality, we can acknowledge the vibrational nature of all things, and create a life experience where we are aligned with the One Source. We play with energy, being able to attract things and experiences onto us, while remaining free from attachment to “material” things, because everything is energy anyways… if it’s there, great. If it’s not there, cool, there is an endless stream of energy available.
What is your view of the Law of Attraction, do you agree that it does have a spiritual nature? Is aligning with Source enough for you, to define it as “enlightenment”? Can one still enjoy individual consciousness, with the ultimate realization that there is none?
Posted on Budha Trance Law of Attraction
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