PARTNERSHIP

Today more couples than ever identify as life partners. The term points to the fact that your significant other shares a proportional part of your life. They are not your whole life, otherwise the bond might be called wholenership rather than partnership! In relationship, we share part of our lives, we share part of our day. We each do our part. Intimate sharing is reciprocal, appropriate and measured. To know and be known doesn't mean sharing everything there is to know. In fact, too much information can easily overwhelm a relationship as much as not enough sharing causes emotional distance. Taking part is both quantitative and qualitative -- it involves real time spent together in a healthy way. You might have experienced unhealthy models of 'being part of' a relationship in the past, such as in your family of origin. Sometimes parents didn't do their part, or they didn't allow anyone else's part. What was your model for being part of something, for being in a partnership? What is your ideal partnership today, and how do you communicate your innermost relational values?

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Saving the World

by Randy Gage

I’m having a fantastic time working on my next book, Risky Is the New Safe. I’m exploring some fascinating topics, perhaps none more intriguing or controversial than selfishness as a virtue. This provides one of the most important lessons on success and prosperity you can ever learn. And it’s something them never taught you in Sunday school…


Your highest moral purpose must be your own success and happiness. 

If you see your main purpose in life as serving others, you have an extremely low opinion of yourself, don’t believe you are worthy, and will experience a tremendous amount of lack and limitation in your life. Not to mention you’re probably personally responsible for the founding of at least three Codependents Anonymous chapters!

Insanity is a lack of reason or good sense. We could certainly define it as unsoundness of mind rendering a person unfit to maintain a relationship or look after his or her own needs for emotional well-being and survival. People who spend their existence worrying solely about the needs of others and not themselves are not noble, benevolent, and spiritual. They are just crazy. To quote Melvin Udall, Jack Nicholson’s character from the movie, As Good As It Gets:

“Go sell crazy somewhere else; we’re all stocked up here.”

People who don’t look after their own needs first, really can’t help others in a healthy way. They can console them, participate in their drama, or enable their co-dependence, but they can’t offer them real, meaningful help.

Want to save the world? Great, it needs all the help it can get. Start by making sure your own needs are met first. Get the money thing out of the way. Get yourself in a position of strength – and you’ll be amazed how much good you can do!

- RG

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