The Perils of Resistance Just for the Sake of Resisting

I talk with lots of people every week who are caught up in a “tug of war”.

They just don’t know how to stop fighting against and resisting good in their lives.

Now they say they want all those good things; love, money, health, happiness, but they really don’t.

What they really want is what they are getting, a tug of war.

Most of us learned as children to say no just because we could. Parents will remember the first 100 times their little one said “NO” to everything.

They resisted getting dressed, eating, following to the car, getting in and out of the car, on and on..

Little children do this as a way of understanding their power over themselves and their lives. Knowing how to say no and mean it is a good thing.. unless you just don’t learn to say yes.

There is “only a stream of well being”, says Abraham. This is all there is.

I get that most people are not experiencing it. What they are experiencing is lack and lots of it.

You don’t do it on purpose, you’re not really even aware of it.

Yet, you are still playing the game of tug of war, resisting abundance, loving relationships, health, wealth and happiness.

How?

When you focus most of your attention on defending why something or someone is in your life.. you just ask for more of the same.

When you argue to be right rather than letting your desire for feeling good take priority, you are resisting.

We see this all around us, even in politics these days. Rather than working together to solve a problem we create, politicians and individuals would rather argue and prove themselves right.

Nothing is right about this. Arguing just to be arguing is problem creation, not problem solving.

We humans have a tendency to create lots of “problems” for ourselves so that we can get a better idea of what we really do want to interact with. These problems encourage us to reach higher, think differently and make exciting choices leading to exciting new “realities” to experience.

This is natural. What’s working against us is when you don’t know when or how to stop problem creating and get on to the solution creating.

Ask yourself what would happen if you just let go easily. How would you feel? What would be the reaction of others if you stopped arguing, stopped fighting and just chose joy?

The choice is really whether you would rather be happy or be right..

If you can stop resisting long enough to discover what would happen if you chose joy over being right, you would discover a whole new energy to create your life with.

Needing to be right is the ego trying to gain power. It reflects your insecurity and doubts about your self worth.

Being happy says that you are ok with you, you know how wonderful, powerful, creative and worthy you are.

What’s your choice?

-Donna Devane