An Aesop Fable
The North Wind and The Sun
The North Wind boasted of great strength. The Sun argued that there was great strength in gentleness.
"We shall have a contest," said the Sun.
Far below, a man traveled a winding road. He was wearing a warm winter coat.
"As a test of strength," said the Sun, "Let us see which of us can take the coat off of that man."
"It will be quite simple for me to force him to remove his coat," bragged the Wind.
The Wind blew so hard, the birds clung to the trees. The world was filled with dust and leaves. But the harder the wind blew down the road, the tighter the shivering man clung to his coat.
Then, the Sun came out from behind a cloud. Sun warmed the air and the frosty ground. The man on the road unbuttoned his coat.
The sun grew slowly brighter and brighter.
Soon the man felt so hot, he took off his coat and sat down in a shady spot.
"How did you do that?" said the Wind.
"It was easy," said the Sun, "Through the strength of gentleness I got my way."
Friday, April 24, 2009
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
"Being happy ..." By Lionel Ketchian
Being happy is the well being that comes from a balanced mind. The more control of our thinking we have, the more our mind is not always telling us what we should be doing. We can then start to experience more happiness. As Aristotle said, "It is the mark of an educated mind to entertain a thought without accepting it." If we cannot stop our thoughts from always telling us what to think about or what to react to then we are not in control of ourselves. This is the reason we feel that doing things will get us where we think we need to be. The truth is we really don't need to do anything or go anywhere. If we start right where we are now, we can begin to realize we have everything we need to be happy. What are we missing? The realization that we have everything we need to start being happy right now. Ask yourself: Is that thought serving me?
HAPPINESS QUOTES
When you are unhappy, you've allowed yourself to be framed. When you are in a frame it is impossible to see the whole picture. See the big picture and stay happy.
- Lionel Ketchian
What is happiness?
It is unconditional acceptance of life, the good, the bad, and the ugly. Once we can understand unconditional happiness we can love, and be loved. Part of what I am talking about is accepting yourself for all your parts, the good, the bad, and the ugly. Once you do that you realize you are good enough. In fact you're perfect! When you feel good about yourself it is then that you can improve yourself. In fact Being Happy is the best self-improvement exercise that I know of.
- Lionel Ketchian
HAPPINESS QUOTES
When you are unhappy, you've allowed yourself to be framed. When you are in a frame it is impossible to see the whole picture. See the big picture and stay happy.
- Lionel Ketchian
What is happiness?
It is unconditional acceptance of life, the good, the bad, and the ugly. Once we can understand unconditional happiness we can love, and be loved. Part of what I am talking about is accepting yourself for all your parts, the good, the bad, and the ugly. Once you do that you realize you are good enough. In fact you're perfect! When you feel good about yourself it is then that you can improve yourself. In fact Being Happy is the best self-improvement exercise that I know of.
- Lionel Ketchian
Thursday, April 16, 2009
Detach From All Things
Detach From All Things by Dennis
Detachment from our stuff may be one of the keys to happiness.
Wouldn't it be freeing not to have a care in the world, to let things come and go, to let everything and everybody just slip through your fingers and not hold onto anything? We seem to spend so much of our time and energy desperately acquiring and holding on to what we have, that we find ourselves with very little time left to actually enjoy it. We bust our butt to get stuff; a house, a car, a fridge and stove, the list is long and endless. Then once our goodies are bought and paid for, or maybe not quite paid for (29% interest lets us "have it all and have it now"), we have to insure it just in case we lose it somehow. Paying for this insurance takes still more of our effort. So really, what is the point of acquiring anything? Maybe I'm on my way to a hermitage!
I do like my big TV, my car is useful, and my house is comfortable. I like my bike and my computer etc. But I have to remind myself not to cling to these things and not to identify myself with them. If they were all gone tomorrow would I still be me? Of course I would, I am not represented by my accumulation and I should not be 'proud' of my possessions. I have never understood how someone could be 'proud' of a shiny sports car. Yes it may be an amazing machine, but the owner didn't build it, they didn't create it. It's not like they built a house with their own two hands or composed a symphony! How can one take pride in something that they simply have in their possession? Its strange how much of our self worth and identity can be wrapped up in an object that has no inherent value. In the end everything we have is merely a tool.
Let it come and let it go. We have heard it said before that we cannot really own anything. We are all just passing through life briefly and all that we gather will move along as well. Metal will rust, wood will rot; everything returns to the earth.
Hoarding material goods and money is bad news. It only serves to promote paranoia and the fear of loss. I'm not saying we shouldn't be financially responsible, we all know what that is, even though many of us have a great deal of trouble with it. But to allow the acquirement of goods to consume our thoughts, and the paying for of these goods to consume our working life seems like more effort than its worth.
When I get to the end of my life I do not want to be sitting on a hoard of stuff, most of which will be old and useless and taken to the dump in the weeks following my death. I want to have the hoard in my mind, a hoard of wonderful experiences and happy times.
So I am always working toward a greater detachment from the things in my life. I get the tools that make my life more enjoyable and my daily efforts more efficient and leave it at that; whether that be a good washing machine to do the family laundry, or a good camera to satisfy my creative endeavors.
Detachment from our stuff may be one of the keys to happiness.
Wouldn't it be freeing not to have a care in the world, to let things come and go, to let everything and everybody just slip through your fingers and not hold onto anything? We seem to spend so much of our time and energy desperately acquiring and holding on to what we have, that we find ourselves with very little time left to actually enjoy it. We bust our butt to get stuff; a house, a car, a fridge and stove, the list is long and endless. Then once our goodies are bought and paid for, or maybe not quite paid for (29% interest lets us "have it all and have it now"), we have to insure it just in case we lose it somehow. Paying for this insurance takes still more of our effort. So really, what is the point of acquiring anything? Maybe I'm on my way to a hermitage!
I do like my big TV, my car is useful, and my house is comfortable. I like my bike and my computer etc. But I have to remind myself not to cling to these things and not to identify myself with them. If they were all gone tomorrow would I still be me? Of course I would, I am not represented by my accumulation and I should not be 'proud' of my possessions. I have never understood how someone could be 'proud' of a shiny sports car. Yes it may be an amazing machine, but the owner didn't build it, they didn't create it. It's not like they built a house with their own two hands or composed a symphony! How can one take pride in something that they simply have in their possession? Its strange how much of our self worth and identity can be wrapped up in an object that has no inherent value. In the end everything we have is merely a tool.
Let it come and let it go. We have heard it said before that we cannot really own anything. We are all just passing through life briefly and all that we gather will move along as well. Metal will rust, wood will rot; everything returns to the earth.
Hoarding material goods and money is bad news. It only serves to promote paranoia and the fear of loss. I'm not saying we shouldn't be financially responsible, we all know what that is, even though many of us have a great deal of trouble with it. But to allow the acquirement of goods to consume our thoughts, and the paying for of these goods to consume our working life seems like more effort than its worth.
When I get to the end of my life I do not want to be sitting on a hoard of stuff, most of which will be old and useless and taken to the dump in the weeks following my death. I want to have the hoard in my mind, a hoard of wonderful experiences and happy times.
So I am always working toward a greater detachment from the things in my life. I get the tools that make my life more enjoyable and my daily efforts more efficient and leave it at that; whether that be a good washing machine to do the family laundry, or a good camera to satisfy my creative endeavors.
The money factor in male attraction
The money factor in male attraction
Why do women love rich men? This question seems to baffle and infuriate men, yet the answer is so simple and logical. As a result, men label women all manner of names from ‘hoe’ to ‘gold digger’.
They refuse to believe that women are attracted to men with money less by a love for money than due to her genetic make-up. So today I will try and enlighten all men so that, the next time a woman leaves you for a richer man, you can blame it on her maternal instincts and not be so quick to judge her.
Every woman is born with some form of maternal instincts. The purpose is to enable her to effectively pick out the perfect mate. With the perfect mate she bears children and expects to not only be sufficiently provided for but that her offspring will also be well provided for. So while picking her mate one of the most important requirements is that the man can provide well. In primitive society, the law of the jungle prevailed and the strongest man ruled over the weak.
His strength represented power and thus he had more resources than the weaker men. As a result he had more women admirers. Women couldn’t get enough of his resource pool and he often had more than one wife. His wives were usually considered the most beautiful in the land.
Today money as opposed to sheer strength represents power and the man who has it makes the rules. On top of the power they wield, rich men have some qualities that men without it often lack. Rich men are often very confident, they have a sexy swagger that seems only come with money, and they dress well. Plus they seem to know what they want and where they are going life. They make a woman feel like they can make the world stop if only she were to ask.
Their money means that they have power and power means that whichever woman they choose will be sufficiently provided for and her kids will have the best of everything. Unfortunately for men, we are living in a material world and we are all material girls. Thus whoever makes the money will get all the girls. So if you want a good woman or want to keep your woman, you better make that ‘paper’.
Resource Pool @ view link
Why do women love rich men? This question seems to baffle and infuriate men, yet the answer is so simple and logical. As a result, men label women all manner of names from ‘hoe’ to ‘gold digger’.
They refuse to believe that women are attracted to men with money less by a love for money than due to her genetic make-up. So today I will try and enlighten all men so that, the next time a woman leaves you for a richer man, you can blame it on her maternal instincts and not be so quick to judge her.
Every woman is born with some form of maternal instincts. The purpose is to enable her to effectively pick out the perfect mate. With the perfect mate she bears children and expects to not only be sufficiently provided for but that her offspring will also be well provided for. So while picking her mate one of the most important requirements is that the man can provide well. In primitive society, the law of the jungle prevailed and the strongest man ruled over the weak.
His strength represented power and thus he had more resources than the weaker men. As a result he had more women admirers. Women couldn’t get enough of his resource pool and he often had more than one wife. His wives were usually considered the most beautiful in the land.
Today money as opposed to sheer strength represents power and the man who has it makes the rules. On top of the power they wield, rich men have some qualities that men without it often lack. Rich men are often very confident, they have a sexy swagger that seems only come with money, and they dress well. Plus they seem to know what they want and where they are going life. They make a woman feel like they can make the world stop if only she were to ask.
Their money means that they have power and power means that whichever woman they choose will be sufficiently provided for and her kids will have the best of everything. Unfortunately for men, we are living in a material world and we are all material girls. Thus whoever makes the money will get all the girls. So if you want a good woman or want to keep your woman, you better make that ‘paper’.
Resource Pool @ view link
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
The Warrior of Light and his temperament by Paulo Coelho
The Warrior of Light and his temperament
by Paulo Coelho
The Warrior of Light can afford to live each day different from the next. He is not afraid of crying over old regrets or feeling happy at new discoveries. When he feels that the hour has come, he casts everything aside and departs for the adventure he has dreamed so long about. When he understands that he is at the limit of his endurance, he leaves the fight, without feeling apologetic for having done one or two crazy and quite unexpected things.
The story below illustrates what I mean.
A man in quest of sanctity decided to climb a high mountain with just the clothes on his back and remain up there meditating for the rest of his life.
Soon he realized that one set of clothes was not enough, because it would get dirty very quick. He descended the mountain, went to the nearest village and asked for other clothes. Since everyone knew that the man was in quest of sanctity, they handed him a new pair of shoes and a shirt.
The man thanked them and climbed back up to the hermitage he was building on the top of the mountain. He spent the night putting up the walls and the days in meditation, eating the fruit of the trees and drinking the water of a nearby spring.
One month later he discovered that a mouse was chewing the extra clothes he had left to dry. Since he wanted to concentrate only on his spiritual duty, he went back down to the village and asked them to find him a cat.
The villagers, in respect for his mission, satisfied his request.
Another seven days and the cat was almost dying of starvation because it could not eat just fruit, and there were no more mice in the place. He went back down to the village for milk; as the villagers knew it was not for him – after all, he resisted without eating anything other than what nature offered him - once more they helped him.
The cat finished the milk quickly, so the man asked them to lend him a cow.
Since the cow gave more milk than was needed, he began to drink it too, so as not to waste it. In a short time – breathing the mountain air, eating fruit, meditating, drinking milk and doing exercises – he turned into a model of beauty. A lovely girl who climbed the mountain looking for her lamb fell in love with him and convinced him that he needed a wife to look after the house while he meditated in peace.
The man spent three days fasting, trying to know which was the best decision to make. Finally he understood that marriage is a blessing from above, and accepted the proposal.
Three years later, the man was married, with two sons, three cows, an orchard of fruit trees, and he ran a place for meditation, with a huge waiting line of people who wanted to know the miraculous “temple of eternal youth.”
When someone asked him how all that had started, he would say:
“Two weeks after I arrived up here, I had only two garments. A mouse began to chew one of them, and...”
But no-one was interested in the end of the story; they were sure that he was a wise businessman just trying to invent a legend to be able to raise even higher the price he charged the lodgers at the temple.
But like a good Warrior of Light, he did not bother about what others thought; he was happy because he was able to transform his dreams into reality.
by Paulo Coelho
The Warrior of Light can afford to live each day different from the next. He is not afraid of crying over old regrets or feeling happy at new discoveries. When he feels that the hour has come, he casts everything aside and departs for the adventure he has dreamed so long about. When he understands that he is at the limit of his endurance, he leaves the fight, without feeling apologetic for having done one or two crazy and quite unexpected things.
The story below illustrates what I mean.
A man in quest of sanctity decided to climb a high mountain with just the clothes on his back and remain up there meditating for the rest of his life.
Soon he realized that one set of clothes was not enough, because it would get dirty very quick. He descended the mountain, went to the nearest village and asked for other clothes. Since everyone knew that the man was in quest of sanctity, they handed him a new pair of shoes and a shirt.
The man thanked them and climbed back up to the hermitage he was building on the top of the mountain. He spent the night putting up the walls and the days in meditation, eating the fruit of the trees and drinking the water of a nearby spring.
One month later he discovered that a mouse was chewing the extra clothes he had left to dry. Since he wanted to concentrate only on his spiritual duty, he went back down to the village and asked them to find him a cat.
The villagers, in respect for his mission, satisfied his request.
Another seven days and the cat was almost dying of starvation because it could not eat just fruit, and there were no more mice in the place. He went back down to the village for milk; as the villagers knew it was not for him – after all, he resisted without eating anything other than what nature offered him - once more they helped him.
The cat finished the milk quickly, so the man asked them to lend him a cow.
Since the cow gave more milk than was needed, he began to drink it too, so as not to waste it. In a short time – breathing the mountain air, eating fruit, meditating, drinking milk and doing exercises – he turned into a model of beauty. A lovely girl who climbed the mountain looking for her lamb fell in love with him and convinced him that he needed a wife to look after the house while he meditated in peace.
The man spent three days fasting, trying to know which was the best decision to make. Finally he understood that marriage is a blessing from above, and accepted the proposal.
Three years later, the man was married, with two sons, three cows, an orchard of fruit trees, and he ran a place for meditation, with a huge waiting line of people who wanted to know the miraculous “temple of eternal youth.”
When someone asked him how all that had started, he would say:
“Two weeks after I arrived up here, I had only two garments. A mouse began to chew one of them, and...”
But no-one was interested in the end of the story; they were sure that he was a wise businessman just trying to invent a legend to be able to raise even higher the price he charged the lodgers at the temple.
But like a good Warrior of Light, he did not bother about what others thought; he was happy because he was able to transform his dreams into reality.
Tuesday, April 14, 2009
Commitment: The Essential Ingredient In Your Relationship - By Dr. Richard Nicastro
Commitment: The Essential Ingredient In Your Relationship - By Dr. Richard Nicastro
Anyone who has run a marathon knows about commitment. To compete, the athlete relies on extensive training and physical fitness. But when the initial enthusiasm wanes and the painful, long-distance realities grip the runner's body, it is sheer dedication -- commitment to completing what she started -- that sustains the runner's motivation as she reaches for the finish line.
A relationship is a lot like running a marathon. There are highs and lows, challenges and rewards, and times when you may want to give up -- when it feels too difficult to continue. What will keep you on track and moving forward when your relationship hits the inevitable rough patch? Will love be enough?
Commitment: Your relationship lifeline
Commitment is a belief in relationship permanence and the understanding that at times your union will need a life-jacket to stay afloat.
When you and your partner are committed to the relationship, the union remains more important then your (and your partner's) individual needs. Without mutual commitment, deep trust will never take root and intimacy will wither. When one person's commitment is tenuous, the very fabric of the relationship is weakened. A lack of commitment reduces the buffer that holds relationships together during times of conflict and stress. Imagine living with the fear that periodic slumps in your relationship can cause your partner to bail.
Trust and deep intimacy will only grow in the soil of commitment.
Commitment has a dual role in your relationship. You can view commitment as the vehicle to help deepen your love, and you can also view it as a safety net of sorts, a way to protect your marriage or relationship during the difficult periods that each and every relationship experiences.
Commitment allows love and intimacy to mature over time. Someone who ends a relationship because the excitement of new love has diminished misses out on the opportunities that relationships bring for individual and mutual growth.
Some erroneously believe that a commitment like "till death do us part" means foolishly locking yourself into a lifetime of potential unhappiness. No one should commit to a relationship that cannot meet their needs. Your needs (and your partner's needs) do matter and should be part of the overall commitment equation. But life and relationships are complicated, and there will be stretches of time when your partner does not meet your needs (and you will not meet your partner's needs). Commitment is what will get you through those rough stretches, enabling each of you to get back on track in meeting each other's needs once again.
All couples (married and unmarried) face an enormous challenge: How to stay devoted to one another throughout the life of your relationship, even when early enthusiasm and euphoria naturally wane.
Commitment is a very personal process. Unfortunately, for some it will mean blind dedication to a union that rarely meets their needs, while others eschew commitment and impulsively use the ebb and flow of happiness as the gauge whether to stay or leave. Both of these approaches are flawed. Ideally, commitment will remain in place as happiness comes and goes and your relationship finds its footing along life's shifting terrain.
Commitment checklist:
Commit to ________:
...understanding that love grows and deepens over a lifetime.
...acknowledging that all relationships go through ups and downs.
...continuously working toward a meaningful relationship that will transcend momentary happiness.
...working through problems with your partner (while resisting the temptation to get your needs met outside of the relationship).
...finding solutions that will keep your relationship moving forward.
...compromising (even when you think you're right).
...yourself and the relationship.
Don't commit to ________:
...anything that feels abusive.
...always sacrificing what's most important to you.
...the idea that if your relationship requires hard work it means your relationship is flawed.
...the mindset that it's acceptable for your needs to continuously go unmet.
One of the greatest challenges to commitment lies in the instant-gratification mindset -- the idea that you deserve to have what you want when you want it. The settings to our pleasure barometer have been altered, and humans are less willing to deal with frustrating circumstances or anything that feels like it stands in the way of immediate happiness. This poses a problem for relationships.
When you make decisions about your relationship based solely on the need to feel happy (all the time), you abandon commitment and the rich opportunities that are essential for your relationship to grow.
I invite you to think about what commitment means to you. What you are committing to in your marriage or relationship?
About the Author:
Richard Nicastro, Ph.D.
Anyone who has run a marathon knows about commitment. To compete, the athlete relies on extensive training and physical fitness. But when the initial enthusiasm wanes and the painful, long-distance realities grip the runner's body, it is sheer dedication -- commitment to completing what she started -- that sustains the runner's motivation as she reaches for the finish line.
A relationship is a lot like running a marathon. There are highs and lows, challenges and rewards, and times when you may want to give up -- when it feels too difficult to continue. What will keep you on track and moving forward when your relationship hits the inevitable rough patch? Will love be enough?
Commitment: Your relationship lifeline
Commitment is a belief in relationship permanence and the understanding that at times your union will need a life-jacket to stay afloat.
When you and your partner are committed to the relationship, the union remains more important then your (and your partner's) individual needs. Without mutual commitment, deep trust will never take root and intimacy will wither. When one person's commitment is tenuous, the very fabric of the relationship is weakened. A lack of commitment reduces the buffer that holds relationships together during times of conflict and stress. Imagine living with the fear that periodic slumps in your relationship can cause your partner to bail.
Trust and deep intimacy will only grow in the soil of commitment.
Commitment has a dual role in your relationship. You can view commitment as the vehicle to help deepen your love, and you can also view it as a safety net of sorts, a way to protect your marriage or relationship during the difficult periods that each and every relationship experiences.
Commitment allows love and intimacy to mature over time. Someone who ends a relationship because the excitement of new love has diminished misses out on the opportunities that relationships bring for individual and mutual growth.
Some erroneously believe that a commitment like "till death do us part" means foolishly locking yourself into a lifetime of potential unhappiness. No one should commit to a relationship that cannot meet their needs. Your needs (and your partner's needs) do matter and should be part of the overall commitment equation. But life and relationships are complicated, and there will be stretches of time when your partner does not meet your needs (and you will not meet your partner's needs). Commitment is what will get you through those rough stretches, enabling each of you to get back on track in meeting each other's needs once again.
All couples (married and unmarried) face an enormous challenge: How to stay devoted to one another throughout the life of your relationship, even when early enthusiasm and euphoria naturally wane.
Commitment is a very personal process. Unfortunately, for some it will mean blind dedication to a union that rarely meets their needs, while others eschew commitment and impulsively use the ebb and flow of happiness as the gauge whether to stay or leave. Both of these approaches are flawed. Ideally, commitment will remain in place as happiness comes and goes and your relationship finds its footing along life's shifting terrain.
Commitment checklist:
Commit to ________:
...understanding that love grows and deepens over a lifetime.
...acknowledging that all relationships go through ups and downs.
...continuously working toward a meaningful relationship that will transcend momentary happiness.
...working through problems with your partner (while resisting the temptation to get your needs met outside of the relationship).
...finding solutions that will keep your relationship moving forward.
...compromising (even when you think you're right).
...yourself and the relationship.
Don't commit to ________:
...anything that feels abusive.
...always sacrificing what's most important to you.
...the idea that if your relationship requires hard work it means your relationship is flawed.
...the mindset that it's acceptable for your needs to continuously go unmet.
One of the greatest challenges to commitment lies in the instant-gratification mindset -- the idea that you deserve to have what you want when you want it. The settings to our pleasure barometer have been altered, and humans are less willing to deal with frustrating circumstances or anything that feels like it stands in the way of immediate happiness. This poses a problem for relationships.
When you make decisions about your relationship based solely on the need to feel happy (all the time), you abandon commitment and the rich opportunities that are essential for your relationship to grow.
I invite you to think about what commitment means to you. What you are committing to in your marriage or relationship?
About the Author:
Richard Nicastro, Ph.D.
AUTOBIOGRAPHY IN FIVE SHORT CHAPTERS by Portia Nelson
AUTOBIOGRAPHY IN FIVE SHORT CHAPTERS
by Portia Nelson
CHAPTER I
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I fall in.
I am lost … I am helpless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes me forever to find a way out.
CHAPTER II
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in the same place
but, it isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.
CHAPTER III
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in … it’s a habit.
my eyes are open
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.
CHAPTER IV
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.
CHAPTER V
I walk down another street.
THE END
Today take another street!
by Portia Nelson
CHAPTER I
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I fall in.
I am lost … I am helpless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes me forever to find a way out.
CHAPTER II
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in the same place
but, it isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.
CHAPTER III
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in … it’s a habit.
my eyes are open
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.
CHAPTER IV
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.
CHAPTER V
I walk down another street.
THE END
Today take another street!
Monday, April 13, 2009
If the Law of Attraction is so great, why do I keep getting bad relationships?
We hear so much about the law of attraction. Most times it is in terms of how do I attract money into my life? I must restate that the law of attraction is a term that is over simplified and over used. First of all it is really not a law unto itself. It is a combination of 2 universal laws or principles. According the Hermetic philosophy there are 7 universal laws or principles. Any Law or principle is universal when it can apply on any plane of existence, whether it is mental, physical or spiritual. If it can not work on all levels it is not universal. The law of attraction is really a catch all phrase for the universal principals of cause and effect and vibration. Stating it as the law of attraction can simplify it for many but when It comes to practical application it can be confusing. So let’s look at a practical application of the law of attraction concept in romantic relationships.
Let’s start with defining the components of the law of attraction. The first component is the law of cause and effect. It simply means that every cause has an effect and every effect has a cause. In the case of the law of attraction, thought is cause. In other words the way you think(cause) has a definite effect on your reality. The second component is the most talked about component of the law of attraction and that is the law of vibration. The law of vibration simply states that nothing in the universe is at rest it vibrates. Of relationshipcourse anything that vibrates makes a sound or has a tone to it. We can use an analogy of a guitar string. When one plucks a guitar string it vibrates and makes a sound. When two sounds can resonate together they make beautiful music. This is the law of attraction broken down in its universal components.
When we consider the relationships that we have had or want to have the law of attraction comes into play. If you are a person that continually seems to get into bad relationships then you have to consider the two components of the law of attraction and why you seem to find these people. Or another way to look at it is how do you keep attracting these types? One of the main concepts that anyone has to understand about physical reality is that we create our reality. Our perception of reality is unique to each individual. No two people see anything alike. Therefore, we have to consider how we think about relationships and how the people will manifest themselves in our lives. Thought is cause. If you have a negative concept of how people will interact with you then you will attract those people into your experience that harmonize or vibrate with you. Your thoughts cause you to vibrate at a certain rate and the people that harmonize with you are the ones that you allow into your experience. The other people are all around you at any given time. From your perspective you simply notice the people that resonate on the same vibration as you. A great analogy of this is when you buy a new car. Have you ever noticed that when you get the new car how you see all the same cars as yours when you are driving the new car? They were there all the time but now you have the same car or resonate with these people and cars and they enter into your awareness. Nothing changed except your new perspective/car. This is the same thing that happens in relationships. You vibrate at a certain rate and the people that harmonize with you enter into your awareness.
If you are sick and tired of having the same type relationships then you simply have to change your vibration. You do this by changing your thought process. First of all you must know what it is that you want in that relationship. Have you ever heard someone say, “I don’t know what I want in a relationship, but I know what I don’t want?” these people wonder why they keep getting what they don’t want. The issue is that the universe is aware of one language. That language is the universal language of the mind. It sees pictures. The universe does not hear words. If your focus or the pictures in your mind are on what you don’t want, guess what the universe sends you? That’s right, they get exactly what they don’t want if that is all they can visualize. This is why it is so important to know what it is you want and be able to picture and visualize it. So if you are sick and tired of the bad relationships know that you are creating your reality. If you think you are the victim you have given away your power. Think about the good aspects of what you want and send those pictures to the universe. Know what you want and know thy self. As someone once said to me that I thought was a great analogy, “you can’t think like a hot dog and expect to attract a steak.” If you are a negative individual, do not expect to attract a positive type person. I guess if you are a beef hotdog you maybe can attract a steak but pretty soon a realization will occur that you are both different. That steak will have to move on. A steak and hot dog can not coexist on the same plate… er, I mean plane. :lol:
Remember as a soul you are here to learn and experience. Understand the universal laws. Understand them and how they work in depth. When you do, you will be able to create the world you desire. It does not happen over night. It can, but not usually. Being in human form our growth is definitely a process. Often times its painful. But we have the capacity to grow. You just have to be brave and set great expectations for yourself.
Are you a brave soul?
Reginaldc is me @ http://reginaldc.me
Let’s start with defining the components of the law of attraction. The first component is the law of cause and effect. It simply means that every cause has an effect and every effect has a cause. In the case of the law of attraction, thought is cause. In other words the way you think(cause) has a definite effect on your reality. The second component is the most talked about component of the law of attraction and that is the law of vibration. The law of vibration simply states that nothing in the universe is at rest it vibrates. Of relationshipcourse anything that vibrates makes a sound or has a tone to it. We can use an analogy of a guitar string. When one plucks a guitar string it vibrates and makes a sound. When two sounds can resonate together they make beautiful music. This is the law of attraction broken down in its universal components.
When we consider the relationships that we have had or want to have the law of attraction comes into play. If you are a person that continually seems to get into bad relationships then you have to consider the two components of the law of attraction and why you seem to find these people. Or another way to look at it is how do you keep attracting these types? One of the main concepts that anyone has to understand about physical reality is that we create our reality. Our perception of reality is unique to each individual. No two people see anything alike. Therefore, we have to consider how we think about relationships and how the people will manifest themselves in our lives. Thought is cause. If you have a negative concept of how people will interact with you then you will attract those people into your experience that harmonize or vibrate with you. Your thoughts cause you to vibrate at a certain rate and the people that harmonize with you are the ones that you allow into your experience. The other people are all around you at any given time. From your perspective you simply notice the people that resonate on the same vibration as you. A great analogy of this is when you buy a new car. Have you ever noticed that when you get the new car how you see all the same cars as yours when you are driving the new car? They were there all the time but now you have the same car or resonate with these people and cars and they enter into your awareness. Nothing changed except your new perspective/car. This is the same thing that happens in relationships. You vibrate at a certain rate and the people that harmonize with you enter into your awareness.
If you are sick and tired of having the same type relationships then you simply have to change your vibration. You do this by changing your thought process. First of all you must know what it is that you want in that relationship. Have you ever heard someone say, “I don’t know what I want in a relationship, but I know what I don’t want?” these people wonder why they keep getting what they don’t want. The issue is that the universe is aware of one language. That language is the universal language of the mind. It sees pictures. The universe does not hear words. If your focus or the pictures in your mind are on what you don’t want, guess what the universe sends you? That’s right, they get exactly what they don’t want if that is all they can visualize. This is why it is so important to know what it is you want and be able to picture and visualize it. So if you are sick and tired of the bad relationships know that you are creating your reality. If you think you are the victim you have given away your power. Think about the good aspects of what you want and send those pictures to the universe. Know what you want and know thy self. As someone once said to me that I thought was a great analogy, “you can’t think like a hot dog and expect to attract a steak.” If you are a negative individual, do not expect to attract a positive type person. I guess if you are a beef hotdog you maybe can attract a steak but pretty soon a realization will occur that you are both different. That steak will have to move on. A steak and hot dog can not coexist on the same plate… er, I mean plane. :lol:
Remember as a soul you are here to learn and experience. Understand the universal laws. Understand them and how they work in depth. When you do, you will be able to create the world you desire. It does not happen over night. It can, but not usually. Being in human form our growth is definitely a process. Often times its painful. But we have the capacity to grow. You just have to be brave and set great expectations for yourself.
Are you a brave soul?
Reginaldc is me @ http://reginaldc.me
Sunday, April 12, 2009
Learning to Stay by Pema Chodron
Learning to Stay
by Pema Chodron
In meditation we discover our inherent restlessness. Sometimes we get up and leave. Sometimes we sit there but our bodies wiggle and squirm and our minds go far away. This can be so uncomfortable that we feel it's impossible to stay. Yet this feeling can teach us not just about ourselves but also about what it is to be human. All of us derive security and comfort from the imaginary world of memories and fantasies and plans. We really don't want to stay with the nakedness of our present experience. it goes against the grain to stay present. These are the times when only gentleness and a sense of humor can give us the strength to settle down.
The pith instruction is, Stay...stay...just stay. Learning to stay with ourselves in meditation is like training a dog. If we train a dog by beating it, we'll end up with an obedient but very inflexible and rather terrified dog. The dog may obey when we say, "Stay!" "Come!" "Roll over!" and "Sit up!" but he will also be neurotic and confused. By contrast, training with kindness results in someone who is flexible and confident, who doesn't become upset when situations are unpredictable and insecure.
So whenever we wander off, we gently encourage ourselves to "stay" and settle down. are we experiencing restlessness? Stay! Discursive mind? Stay! Aching knees and throbbing back? Stay!. What's for lunch? Stay! What am I doing here? Stay! I can't stand this another minute! Stay! That is how we cultivate steadfastness. [...]
When our emotions intensify, what we usually feel is fear. This fear is always lurking in our lives. In sitting meditation we practice dropping whatever story we are telling ourselves and leaning into the emotions and the fear, Thus we train in opening the fearful heart to the restlessness of our own energy. We learn to abide with the experience of our emotional distress. [...]
Coming back to the present moment takes some effort, but the effort is very light. The instruction is to "touch and go." we touch thoughts by acknowledging them as thinking and then we let them go. It's a way of relaxing our struggle, like touching a bubble with a feather. It's a nonaggressive approach to being here.
- Pema Chodron, from 'The Places That Scare You"
by Pema Chodron
In meditation we discover our inherent restlessness. Sometimes we get up and leave. Sometimes we sit there but our bodies wiggle and squirm and our minds go far away. This can be so uncomfortable that we feel it's impossible to stay. Yet this feeling can teach us not just about ourselves but also about what it is to be human. All of us derive security and comfort from the imaginary world of memories and fantasies and plans. We really don't want to stay with the nakedness of our present experience. it goes against the grain to stay present. These are the times when only gentleness and a sense of humor can give us the strength to settle down.
The pith instruction is, Stay...stay...just stay. Learning to stay with ourselves in meditation is like training a dog. If we train a dog by beating it, we'll end up with an obedient but very inflexible and rather terrified dog. The dog may obey when we say, "Stay!" "Come!" "Roll over!" and "Sit up!" but he will also be neurotic and confused. By contrast, training with kindness results in someone who is flexible and confident, who doesn't become upset when situations are unpredictable and insecure.
So whenever we wander off, we gently encourage ourselves to "stay" and settle down. are we experiencing restlessness? Stay! Discursive mind? Stay! Aching knees and throbbing back? Stay!. What's for lunch? Stay! What am I doing here? Stay! I can't stand this another minute! Stay! That is how we cultivate steadfastness. [...]
When our emotions intensify, what we usually feel is fear. This fear is always lurking in our lives. In sitting meditation we practice dropping whatever story we are telling ourselves and leaning into the emotions and the fear, Thus we train in opening the fearful heart to the restlessness of our own energy. We learn to abide with the experience of our emotional distress. [...]
Coming back to the present moment takes some effort, but the effort is very light. The instruction is to "touch and go." we touch thoughts by acknowledging them as thinking and then we let them go. It's a way of relaxing our struggle, like touching a bubble with a feather. It's a nonaggressive approach to being here.
- Pema Chodron, from 'The Places That Scare You"
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
Negative Emotions Can Turn Into Fears ... by Angie Sierra
Negative Emotions Can Turn Into Fears ... by Angie Sierra
I’d like to share a true story with you:
There was a little girl who admired and respected her father. She always enjoyed watching him work around the house.
One sat. evening, her father was working on an ongoing complicated project in the garage. He was tired, frustrated, irritated and didn’t want to be bothered.
The daughter (unaware of how her father was feeling at that exact time) walked inside the garage in a exciting, care free and happy mood.
Watching him from a distance, she decided to impress her father and work on her own little project. So she picked up a hammer, a small nail, a piece of wood and began to hit the nail with the hammer.
She was doing well until she missed the nail and instead hit her finger.
Holding back her tears from the pain & throbbing of her finger,she grabbed the hammer to try again, her father yanked the hammer from her hands and yelled at her saying: “You don’t know how to do anything! just get out of here! And leave me Alone!”...
Even though our parents or guardians were our first teachers, we can not blame or get upset on how they raised us. Being a parent or guardian does not come with instructions.
There actions toward you were based on how they were raised, how they were discipline, how they were treated or mistreated, and how they were loved.
Some parents had a hard upbringing and learned from there experiences, overcame them and vowed never to treat there children the way they were mistreated, others kept there emotions locked away, not knowing/understanding how to approach or handle there emotions.
You see the father lashed out with anger not because of his daughter but because of how he was feeling and took it out on his daughter. The bad news is the little girl heard and believed every word he said...
Experiences like this can stay with you for many years and the negative emotions at a young age can easily turn into fears as we grow. That’s what happened in this case.
As she grew into a teenager, she became extremely shy. She didn’t talk very much and kept to herself. In school she never volunteered for any thing because she was afraid to mess up and believed no one wanted her around...
This story was based on one of my personal experiences.
The feeling of never being good enough has always been a struggle. A battle within myself of either trying my hardest to accomplish or being afraid to succeed. but
The understanding I got after working on myself first (healing) was by far most important in improving my entire life.
Can you recall of a moment or moments that may have had a negative impact through out your life?
Write about it in your journal...
Join me in 3days, for a better understanding.
Have an Amazing Journey!
TrueHealthAndHappiness.com
© Copyright 2009 TrueHealthAndHappiness.com All Rights Reserved
Angie Sierra
757 E. Realty St.
Carson
90745
United States
I’d like to share a true story with you:
There was a little girl who admired and respected her father. She always enjoyed watching him work around the house.
One sat. evening, her father was working on an ongoing complicated project in the garage. He was tired, frustrated, irritated and didn’t want to be bothered.
The daughter (unaware of how her father was feeling at that exact time) walked inside the garage in a exciting, care free and happy mood.
Watching him from a distance, she decided to impress her father and work on her own little project. So she picked up a hammer, a small nail, a piece of wood and began to hit the nail with the hammer.
She was doing well until she missed the nail and instead hit her finger.
Holding back her tears from the pain & throbbing of her finger,she grabbed the hammer to try again, her father yanked the hammer from her hands and yelled at her saying: “You don’t know how to do anything! just get out of here! And leave me Alone!”...
Even though our parents or guardians were our first teachers, we can not blame or get upset on how they raised us. Being a parent or guardian does not come with instructions.
There actions toward you were based on how they were raised, how they were discipline, how they were treated or mistreated, and how they were loved.
Some parents had a hard upbringing and learned from there experiences, overcame them and vowed never to treat there children the way they were mistreated, others kept there emotions locked away, not knowing/understanding how to approach or handle there emotions.
You see the father lashed out with anger not because of his daughter but because of how he was feeling and took it out on his daughter. The bad news is the little girl heard and believed every word he said...
Experiences like this can stay with you for many years and the negative emotions at a young age can easily turn into fears as we grow. That’s what happened in this case.
As she grew into a teenager, she became extremely shy. She didn’t talk very much and kept to herself. In school she never volunteered for any thing because she was afraid to mess up and believed no one wanted her around...
This story was based on one of my personal experiences.
The feeling of never being good enough has always been a struggle. A battle within myself of either trying my hardest to accomplish or being afraid to succeed. but
The understanding I got after working on myself first (healing) was by far most important in improving my entire life.
Can you recall of a moment or moments that may have had a negative impact through out your life?
Write about it in your journal...
Join me in 3days, for a better understanding.
Have an Amazing Journey!
TrueHealthAndHappiness.com
© Copyright 2009 TrueHealthAndHappiness.com All Rights Reserved
Angie Sierra
757 E. Realty St.
Carson
90745
United States
Monday, April 6, 2009
Resolve to Evolve by Paul Hoffman
Resolve to Evolve by Paul Hoffman
Are you willing to grow and transform your life today into exactly what you dream it can be? Do you have the determination and the confidence it takes to walk through any challenge and realize the opportunity that is being presented to you? Will you see the blessing by knowing that within you you have everything you need to create the most amazing life? I believe that this is the truth of who we are. All it takes is a self-loving nudge for yourself to be able to release and let go of the limiting beliefs we sometimes are holding on to so that we begin to see and feel the powerful presence that is who we are. You are unique and special and when you have the "Resolve To Evolve" into the gifted person you are any false sense of being something else will drift away and what remains is a confident and certain knowingness that you can have it all.
Each day we are presented with the gifts of creation. We get to choose the path we want to journey down and the kinds of relationships we want to hold dear to our hearts. It is through the decisions we make from the mindset of free will that what we want becomes the essence of who we are. We don't need to know how things will happen we just need to know what we want to happen. Life is all about growing and transforming. We are all a work in progress as we learn every step of the way how to be more and more of who we are. Stay in the vibration of unconditional love today and share your brilliance. be supportive of others. Give the gift of you seeking nothing in return. When you allow yourself the permission to claim your greatness the garden of your life will be filled with healthy and positive activities that will bring you closer and closer to creating a world that works for everyone and you will be truly manifesting in your life the dream in your heart.
"The transformation of you begins with the decision to be who you really are and not some limiting belief of who you think you are."
I AM in perfect harmony with the calling of my life
I release any judgment and I can't do consciousness
In my mind I see the beautiful vision of my dream
I know that MY dream is really my reality
All the blessings of this new day are food for my unfoldment
The smorgasboard of my life wets my creative appetite
I am absolutely ready to have it all!
It's your day...MAKE IT A GREAT ONE!
Are you willing to grow and transform your life today into exactly what you dream it can be? Do you have the determination and the confidence it takes to walk through any challenge and realize the opportunity that is being presented to you? Will you see the blessing by knowing that within you you have everything you need to create the most amazing life? I believe that this is the truth of who we are. All it takes is a self-loving nudge for yourself to be able to release and let go of the limiting beliefs we sometimes are holding on to so that we begin to see and feel the powerful presence that is who we are. You are unique and special and when you have the "Resolve To Evolve" into the gifted person you are any false sense of being something else will drift away and what remains is a confident and certain knowingness that you can have it all.
Each day we are presented with the gifts of creation. We get to choose the path we want to journey down and the kinds of relationships we want to hold dear to our hearts. It is through the decisions we make from the mindset of free will that what we want becomes the essence of who we are. We don't need to know how things will happen we just need to know what we want to happen. Life is all about growing and transforming. We are all a work in progress as we learn every step of the way how to be more and more of who we are. Stay in the vibration of unconditional love today and share your brilliance. be supportive of others. Give the gift of you seeking nothing in return. When you allow yourself the permission to claim your greatness the garden of your life will be filled with healthy and positive activities that will bring you closer and closer to creating a world that works for everyone and you will be truly manifesting in your life the dream in your heart.
"The transformation of you begins with the decision to be who you really are and not some limiting belief of who you think you are."
I AM in perfect harmony with the calling of my life
I release any judgment and I can't do consciousness
In my mind I see the beautiful vision of my dream
I know that MY dream is really my reality
All the blessings of this new day are food for my unfoldment
The smorgasboard of my life wets my creative appetite
I am absolutely ready to have it all!
It's your day...MAKE IT A GREAT ONE!
Sunday, April 5, 2009
The Secret Skill by Cheryl Richardson
The Secret Skill
by Cheryl Richardson
What's the secret of success? What do we need most to accomplish our goals, to fulfill our intentions, or to realize our dreams? Some might say intelligence, others may say money, patience, or the right connections. While all of these ingredients are important, the true secret of success is an often overlooked and critical skill - resourcefulness. Let me give you a simple example of what I mean.
Recently I spent some time with my good friend Nancy checking out a possible new location for future retreats. One morning, as Nancy and I were sitting in our room having coffee, I took out some tissue paper from my suitcase to wrap a birthday gift for a friend I planned to see later in the day. As I began to fold the paper around the gift, I realized I had no tape or ribbon to secure the wrapping. So, rather than walk to the gift store, I decided to challenge myself to find a way to get the gift wrapped without having the right tools. I saw this as an opportunity to stretch my resourcefulness muscles - something I enjoy doing.
I took a large, pink piece of tissue paper and carefully wrapped it around the gift. Then, I took a pink and white piece, folded it into a thin strip, and used it to keep the ends of the pink paper closed. But, I still needed something to secure the strip. So, I went out into the garden to look for a long piece of grass, or a thin branch from a nearby bush. No luck. I went back inside to keep searching.
By now, Nancy was fully on board and we were both having fun trying to find a solution. Nancy is one of the most resourceful people I know, and I knew it was a matter of time before we came up with an idea. Just then, I walked into my bathroom and immediately found the answer: dental floss. I pulled a long piece from the container, tied it around the gift, and stepped back to admire my creation. The gift looked like it had been professionally wrapped (and it smelled minty-fresh, too!).
Our successful attempt to wrap the gift prompted a discussion about the importance of being resourceful. Nancy is the Events Director for more than 85 Hay House programs every year, and she's challenged to find solutions to problems every day. As a result she's a lightening-quick thinker, a bulldog when it comes to follow through, and a master at finding solutions to what appear to be insurmountable problems. If a goal or dream is meant to be realized, then these are the skills you'll want to make it happen.
The American Heritage Dictionary defines resourceful as: The ability to act effectively or imaginatively, especially in difficult situations. If you develop this ability, you're sure to succeed at the things that matter most. So, think about it. How resourceful are you? To find out, choose a goal or intention that's important to you, one that also presents a challenge. Then, take the following three steps.
Step 1 - Decide in your mind that there is a solution to the problem or challenge - period, end of discussion. Don't take no for an answer.
Step 2 - Commit to doing whatever it takes to find that solution (this is why the goal better be important).
Step 3 - Start searching for your next step and be open to unexpected ideas. Then take action.
Whether you need to find a new job in a hurry, money to pay this month's rent, an idea to help take your business to the next level, or a way to turn a mistake into an opportunity, resourcefulness is your ticket to a successful outcome. Just stay open-minded and be sure to keep your feet moving :).
Take Action Challenge
When you develop your resourcefulness muscles, you'll stop being afraid of failure. And you'll start influencing the lives of others in a powerful way. For further proof, I invite you to check out this beautiful commencement speech delivered by J.K. Rowling at Harvard University. It's called, "The Fringe Benefits of Failure, and the Importance of Imagination." Check it out here:
J.K. Rowling Speaks at Harvard Commencement from Harvard Magazine on Vimeo.
by Cheryl Richardson
What's the secret of success? What do we need most to accomplish our goals, to fulfill our intentions, or to realize our dreams? Some might say intelligence, others may say money, patience, or the right connections. While all of these ingredients are important, the true secret of success is an often overlooked and critical skill - resourcefulness. Let me give you a simple example of what I mean.
Recently I spent some time with my good friend Nancy checking out a possible new location for future retreats. One morning, as Nancy and I were sitting in our room having coffee, I took out some tissue paper from my suitcase to wrap a birthday gift for a friend I planned to see later in the day. As I began to fold the paper around the gift, I realized I had no tape or ribbon to secure the wrapping. So, rather than walk to the gift store, I decided to challenge myself to find a way to get the gift wrapped without having the right tools. I saw this as an opportunity to stretch my resourcefulness muscles - something I enjoy doing.
I took a large, pink piece of tissue paper and carefully wrapped it around the gift. Then, I took a pink and white piece, folded it into a thin strip, and used it to keep the ends of the pink paper closed. But, I still needed something to secure the strip. So, I went out into the garden to look for a long piece of grass, or a thin branch from a nearby bush. No luck. I went back inside to keep searching.
By now, Nancy was fully on board and we were both having fun trying to find a solution. Nancy is one of the most resourceful people I know, and I knew it was a matter of time before we came up with an idea. Just then, I walked into my bathroom and immediately found the answer: dental floss. I pulled a long piece from the container, tied it around the gift, and stepped back to admire my creation. The gift looked like it had been professionally wrapped (and it smelled minty-fresh, too!).
Our successful attempt to wrap the gift prompted a discussion about the importance of being resourceful. Nancy is the Events Director for more than 85 Hay House programs every year, and she's challenged to find solutions to problems every day. As a result she's a lightening-quick thinker, a bulldog when it comes to follow through, and a master at finding solutions to what appear to be insurmountable problems. If a goal or dream is meant to be realized, then these are the skills you'll want to make it happen.
The American Heritage Dictionary defines resourceful as: The ability to act effectively or imaginatively, especially in difficult situations. If you develop this ability, you're sure to succeed at the things that matter most. So, think about it. How resourceful are you? To find out, choose a goal or intention that's important to you, one that also presents a challenge. Then, take the following three steps.
Step 1 - Decide in your mind that there is a solution to the problem or challenge - period, end of discussion. Don't take no for an answer.
Step 2 - Commit to doing whatever it takes to find that solution (this is why the goal better be important).
Step 3 - Start searching for your next step and be open to unexpected ideas. Then take action.
Whether you need to find a new job in a hurry, money to pay this month's rent, an idea to help take your business to the next level, or a way to turn a mistake into an opportunity, resourcefulness is your ticket to a successful outcome. Just stay open-minded and be sure to keep your feet moving :).
Take Action Challenge
When you develop your resourcefulness muscles, you'll stop being afraid of failure. And you'll start influencing the lives of others in a powerful way. For further proof, I invite you to check out this beautiful commencement speech delivered by J.K. Rowling at Harvard University. It's called, "The Fringe Benefits of Failure, and the Importance of Imagination." Check it out here:
J.K. Rowling Speaks at Harvard Commencement from Harvard Magazine on Vimeo.
Saturday, April 4, 2009
"Worrying is the same thing as banging your head against the wall. It only feels good when you stop." — John Powers
"Worrying is the same thing as banging your head against the wall. It only feels good when you stop." — John Powers: Author and motivational speaker
There are only a handful of dangerous creatures on the planet that can do as much harm as we do to ourselves through worry. If we allow too much worry into our lives, it affects our mind, our health, our bodies, and our motivation. It can essentially paralyze us. But while its side effects are awful, the remedy is quick and painless. Cure yourself of worry by injecting confidence into your life and by following an unbeatable plan.
John Powers
There are only a handful of dangerous creatures on the planet that can do as much harm as we do to ourselves through worry. If we allow too much worry into our lives, it affects our mind, our health, our bodies, and our motivation. It can essentially paralyze us. But while its side effects are awful, the remedy is quick and painless. Cure yourself of worry by injecting confidence into your life and by following an unbeatable plan.
John Powers
Let's Think About Thinking by Dick Warn
The Miracle Minute
Let's Think About Thinking by Dick Warn
Harry Lorayne, American memory expert, said, "Thinking clearly and effectively is the greatest asset of any human being."
And, Soren Kierkegaard, Danish philosopher, said, "Our life always expresses the result of our dominant thoughts."
Most people aren't aware of the power of their thoughts. They live outer-directed lives, blaming their environment and other people for their unhappiness. However, the rare few who do find happiness are inner-directed - people who have learned to select the thoughts they entertain.
Your conscious mind sits at a very busy crossroad of random ideas. Some of those ideas are based on absolute truths, yet the vast majority of them are not. What most people assume to be true are often opinions driven by emotional myths based upon absolute garbage.
Common sense isn't common. Truth isn't welcomed at most gatherings. No wonder so many people have lost their way.
William James, American psychologist and author, said, "Why should we think upon things that are lovely? Because thinking determines our life. It is a common habit to blame life upon the environment. Environment modifies life but does not govern life. The soul is stronger than its surroundings."
Dick Warn
Copyright 2009 Richard S. Warn & Associates
www.themiracleminute.com
Let's Think About Thinking by Dick Warn
Harry Lorayne, American memory expert, said, "Thinking clearly and effectively is the greatest asset of any human being."
And, Soren Kierkegaard, Danish philosopher, said, "Our life always expresses the result of our dominant thoughts."
Most people aren't aware of the power of their thoughts. They live outer-directed lives, blaming their environment and other people for their unhappiness. However, the rare few who do find happiness are inner-directed - people who have learned to select the thoughts they entertain.
Your conscious mind sits at a very busy crossroad of random ideas. Some of those ideas are based on absolute truths, yet the vast majority of them are not. What most people assume to be true are often opinions driven by emotional myths based upon absolute garbage.
Common sense isn't common. Truth isn't welcomed at most gatherings. No wonder so many people have lost their way.
William James, American psychologist and author, said, "Why should we think upon things that are lovely? Because thinking determines our life. It is a common habit to blame life upon the environment. Environment modifies life but does not govern life. The soul is stronger than its surroundings."
Dick Warn
Copyright 2009 Richard S. Warn & Associates
www.themiracleminute.com
Friday, April 3, 2009
Welcome to Your New Beginning! by Angie Sierra
Everything in your life happens for a reason, You didn't just so happen to subscribe to these emails and are now continuing to read each word. (Note: I discovered Angie's articles, subscribed and believe they're worthy of sharing)
This is not a coincidence, its all apart of YOUR Journey.
Maybe you're looking for answers or in need of encouraging words, maybe you're looking to change your present life, find balance and move forward.
Or maybe you're one of my supportive friends (which I welcome and
appreciate by the way)Whatever your reasons are, they've lead to this moment...
As you know, we don't live in a perfect world and things aren't always going to go as planned. Running into obstacles and always facing challenges are apart of our lives. The lessons we learn, the sacrifices we take, the emotional roller coaster we face and the negativity we live in, are there to help us Experience, Learn, and Evolve.
Some might ask, "Then how do I deal with it all, especially the stress, challenges and bad situations?"
Its very simple.
The answer:
By Never Giving Up and Thinking Positive No Matter What.
For example lets say you get hurt or were involved in some sort of accident and now your in the hospital. Its OK... Things aren't always what they seem. Maybe you needed to get some rest an take a break, maybe you were moving too fast and needed to slow down, maybe you were headed towards something worse and this had to happen to stop you from going any further. There's always a deeper meaning. You'll see & understand exactly why things happen but only after overcoming the emotional process.
Remember this: Your Greatest Learning Experiences always come from bad situations. let me repeat "Your Greatest Learning Experiences Always Come From Bad Situations".
Accept your problems and solve them as they come. Tell yourself your challenges are temporary and will pass. Ask "What is this experience trying to teach me" or "How can I grow from this setback?". This helps deal with the situation, finding ways to solve, accept and move forward...
You see you're a Powerful Person who can influence and attract more good then bad in your life by Feeding your Mind with Positive Thoughts no matter what. Overcoming our obstacles and gaining knowledge along the way is what its all about.
Take the First Breath, Welcome to Your New Beginning!
P.S I understand many of us have hectic life's but we need time off to work On Ourselves to Create a more Positive Outcome. Having a personal journal to write down any thoughts, dreams, goals, quotes, etc. is a great way to help develop your personal growth. It increases your self-awareness and helps keep you on track. By also writing the exact dates and time, will allow you to go back reflective and analyze where your state of mind was at that moment.
So everyday or at least 2×'s a week set a quiet time for yourself to relax, clear your mind, gather your thoughts and look over your journal. This is the time to Reevaluate your life, make changes and Improvements. To have awareness and clarity, to receive guidelines, hunches, and ideas. (with No distractions)
P.S.S Its also extremely important when receiving an email, you reread that particular email at least 2×'s that week.
A suggestion would be to place your emails in one folder for easy access, by clicking on Move...[New Folder]...then entering a name for your folder...and moving all your emails into that folder. Your new folder will be located on the left hand side underneath My Folders.
The Value Of Learning Is Truly Beyond Words
Have an Amazing Journey!
TrueHealthAndHappiness.com
© Copyright 2009 TrueHealthAndHappiness.com
This is not a coincidence, its all apart of YOUR Journey.
Maybe you're looking for answers or in need of encouraging words, maybe you're looking to change your present life, find balance and move forward.
Or maybe you're one of my supportive friends (which I welcome and
appreciate by the way)Whatever your reasons are, they've lead to this moment...
As you know, we don't live in a perfect world and things aren't always going to go as planned. Running into obstacles and always facing challenges are apart of our lives. The lessons we learn, the sacrifices we take, the emotional roller coaster we face and the negativity we live in, are there to help us Experience, Learn, and Evolve.
Some might ask, "Then how do I deal with it all, especially the stress, challenges and bad situations?"
Its very simple.
The answer:
By Never Giving Up and Thinking Positive No Matter What.
For example lets say you get hurt or were involved in some sort of accident and now your in the hospital. Its OK... Things aren't always what they seem. Maybe you needed to get some rest an take a break, maybe you were moving too fast and needed to slow down, maybe you were headed towards something worse and this had to happen to stop you from going any further. There's always a deeper meaning. You'll see & understand exactly why things happen but only after overcoming the emotional process.
Remember this: Your Greatest Learning Experiences always come from bad situations. let me repeat "Your Greatest Learning Experiences Always Come From Bad Situations".
Accept your problems and solve them as they come. Tell yourself your challenges are temporary and will pass. Ask "What is this experience trying to teach me" or "How can I grow from this setback?". This helps deal with the situation, finding ways to solve, accept and move forward...
You see you're a Powerful Person who can influence and attract more good then bad in your life by Feeding your Mind with Positive Thoughts no matter what. Overcoming our obstacles and gaining knowledge along the way is what its all about.
Take the First Breath, Welcome to Your New Beginning!
P.S I understand many of us have hectic life's but we need time off to work On Ourselves to Create a more Positive Outcome. Having a personal journal to write down any thoughts, dreams, goals, quotes, etc. is a great way to help develop your personal growth. It increases your self-awareness and helps keep you on track. By also writing the exact dates and time, will allow you to go back reflective and analyze where your state of mind was at that moment.
So everyday or at least 2×'s a week set a quiet time for yourself to relax, clear your mind, gather your thoughts and look over your journal. This is the time to Reevaluate your life, make changes and Improvements. To have awareness and clarity, to receive guidelines, hunches, and ideas. (with No distractions)
P.S.S Its also extremely important when receiving an email, you reread that particular email at least 2×'s that week.
A suggestion would be to place your emails in one folder for easy access, by clicking on Move...[New Folder]...then entering a name for your folder...and moving all your emails into that folder. Your new folder will be located on the left hand side underneath My Folders.
The Value Of Learning Is Truly Beyond Words
Have an Amazing Journey!
TrueHealthAndHappiness.com
© Copyright 2009 TrueHealthAndHappiness.com
Suffering From Negative Head-Talk?
Suffering From Negative Head-Talk?
By: Jim Sniechowski and Judith Sherven
Nearly everyone does battle with that pesky voice of self-judgment and sabotaging put-downs that chatters away in our heads.
And, in response to a recent teleseminar we gave titled "The Fear of Being Fabulous" we received a request from a participant who said:
"I would love to hear how you remove the head talk that keeps you from being fabulous. I can get so far and then I'm stopped by my head talk."
Here's our answer . . .
First, you'll know it's Head-Talk by the repetitive, nagging attack on who you are. Your self-respect and self-esteem can end up in the toilet. And you can end up on the edge of . . . well, for us it's sometimes been the pothole from hell.
On the other hand, if you only hear a single reminder or even a reprimand, that's usually your wisdom giving you a heads-up to watch out or correct for behavior that's not in your best interest.
But Negative Head-Talk is relentless once it gets going. Its job is to successfully bring you down and remind you of your "proper" place.
What's "proper" about being put down?
Well, you weren't born turning yourself into a brick of Swiss cheese, with more holes than substance. Right?
Somewhere along your life, probably earlier than later, you were told negative stuff about who you are and what you could accomplish and what you could have and who you could be . . .
Even if you cannot now remember what it was or who said it.
Because if that hadn't happened, there wouldn't be any Negative Scripts in your noggin' that involuntarily blast away at you as Negative Self-Talk.
So, what to do when that destructive force turns on you and fills your head with lies . . .
1) Know they are lies.
2) Remember We're On Your Side and we told you they're lies.
3) Take yourself back to where they came from originally, and see if you can remember who told you those lies, when, and what for...
4) Then notice how, when that Negative Head-Talk takes over, you are still in allegiance to that person and that part of your history.
5) Know that even after you've got hold of its source, when the Negative Self-Talk yammers at you you'll be tempted to side with IT instead of with YOU.
6) So that's when you must practice taking your own side, something you couldn't do when you were younger. But you must practice doing it now.
7) Make the commitment to break your allegiance. This won't happen without fear, pain, and sorrow. And there will be a sense of loss. That's expected and normal.
8) Know that this need to detach from the past is urgent. Because that's the key to your well-being and a fabulous future.
9) Stay away from blame. That just keeps you stuck to the past.And that's just another, less obvious form of your allegiance.
10) Make the commitment to side with your desire. It's your desire that will carve out and light the path to the Positive Head-Talk that you need as your powerful guide and ally.
Now, every time your Negative Head-Talk threatens, you have your own internal arsenal to combat and overcome its power to trash your well-being. With practice you'll see that that voice becomes weaker and less active.
And you will enjoy the freedom to be fabulously alive and loving on your own terms.
For deeper breakthroughs, get Judith & Jim's bonus program "Positive Thinking is NOT Enough". Just go to: http://budurl.com/positivethinkinghww
About the Author:
Judith & Jim are the best-selling authors of five relationship books. Their latest is The Smart Couple's Guide to the Wedding of Your Dreams www.smartweddingcouples.com. To receive Judith & Jim's free tips on making your relationships extraordinary, just go to www.makingtheordinaryextraordinary.com
By: Jim Sniechowski and Judith Sherven
Nearly everyone does battle with that pesky voice of self-judgment and sabotaging put-downs that chatters away in our heads.
And, in response to a recent teleseminar we gave titled "The Fear of Being Fabulous" we received a request from a participant who said:
"I would love to hear how you remove the head talk that keeps you from being fabulous. I can get so far and then I'm stopped by my head talk."
Here's our answer . . .
First, you'll know it's Head-Talk by the repetitive, nagging attack on who you are. Your self-respect and self-esteem can end up in the toilet. And you can end up on the edge of . . . well, for us it's sometimes been the pothole from hell.
On the other hand, if you only hear a single reminder or even a reprimand, that's usually your wisdom giving you a heads-up to watch out or correct for behavior that's not in your best interest.
But Negative Head-Talk is relentless once it gets going. Its job is to successfully bring you down and remind you of your "proper" place.
What's "proper" about being put down?
Well, you weren't born turning yourself into a brick of Swiss cheese, with more holes than substance. Right?
Somewhere along your life, probably earlier than later, you were told negative stuff about who you are and what you could accomplish and what you could have and who you could be . . .
Even if you cannot now remember what it was or who said it.
Because if that hadn't happened, there wouldn't be any Negative Scripts in your noggin' that involuntarily blast away at you as Negative Self-Talk.
So, what to do when that destructive force turns on you and fills your head with lies . . .
1) Know they are lies.
2) Remember We're On Your Side and we told you they're lies.
3) Take yourself back to where they came from originally, and see if you can remember who told you those lies, when, and what for...
4) Then notice how, when that Negative Head-Talk takes over, you are still in allegiance to that person and that part of your history.
5) Know that even after you've got hold of its source, when the Negative Self-Talk yammers at you you'll be tempted to side with IT instead of with YOU.
6) So that's when you must practice taking your own side, something you couldn't do when you were younger. But you must practice doing it now.
7) Make the commitment to break your allegiance. This won't happen without fear, pain, and sorrow. And there will be a sense of loss. That's expected and normal.
8) Know that this need to detach from the past is urgent. Because that's the key to your well-being and a fabulous future.
9) Stay away from blame. That just keeps you stuck to the past.And that's just another, less obvious form of your allegiance.
10) Make the commitment to side with your desire. It's your desire that will carve out and light the path to the Positive Head-Talk that you need as your powerful guide and ally.
Now, every time your Negative Head-Talk threatens, you have your own internal arsenal to combat and overcome its power to trash your well-being. With practice you'll see that that voice becomes weaker and less active.
And you will enjoy the freedom to be fabulously alive and loving on your own terms.
For deeper breakthroughs, get Judith & Jim's bonus program "Positive Thinking is NOT Enough". Just go to: http://budurl.com/positivethinkinghww
About the Author:
Judith & Jim are the best-selling authors of five relationship books. Their latest is The Smart Couple's Guide to the Wedding of Your Dreams www.smartweddingcouples.com. To receive Judith & Jim's free tips on making your relationships extraordinary, just go to www.makingtheordinaryextraordinary.com
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
Law of Attraction and the quest for Enlightenment by Palma Bellardoni
When one mentions the Law of Attraction, I have noticed that people have different reactions and a different perception of it. I wonder if it depends on how they learned about it, and what was the source of the material. Some are skeptical about it, and do think that all this “positive thinking” won’t lead to anything - that it is a very naive approach, and that it misleads the masses. Others say that all this wanting to manifest material goods is not spiritual at all, and it’s just a hype that took hold in a society that keeps wanting to accumulate stuff, where people want to learn to manifest just to improve their material life, without looking deeper with the desire to raise their consciousness.
Depending on how you look at it, they are both right and wrong. What I mean is, they are right because there are sources that teach a mostly materialistic or incomplete approach, they are wrong because they did not look at the true spiritual essence of the principles.
Can the Law of Attraction lead to spiritual enlightenment? What is enlightenment anyways?
Buddhism and Enlightenment
According to Buddhist teachings, enlightenment is the extinction of desire and suffering and the disintegration of individual consciousness. It is the realization that the ego is an illusion of the mind, and that we are One consciousness. It is the awakening to the true nature of this Universe. This realization doesn’t stem from a purely intellectual knowledge, but from a real experience of merging into Oneness, a true knowing of the illusion of the ego.
During a Vipassana meditation course, I had a tiny millisecond glimpse of this. It was like a melting away of the body and mind, and a feeling of Oneness and floating energy. I tried to reach that state again, during following sessions, as it was really blissful in that microscopic moment, but could never replicate it. However, the memory of it is there, so I can really relate to the concept. Should I mention that everything went back to (*cough*) normal, with my individual ego being quite happy?
The Law of Attraction and Enlightenment
According to the best teachers - in my opinion - of the Law of Attraction, Abraham-Hicks, enlightenment is an alignment with Source
Enlightenment means literally aligning to the Energy of my Source. And genius is only about focusing. Law of Attraction takes care of everything else. Physical humans often want to make enlightenment about finding some process and moving through the process that has been pre-described. But true enlightenment is moving to the rhythm of the internal inspiration that is coming in response to the individual desire. Enlightenment is about allowing my Connection to the Source that is me for the fulfillment of the things that I have individually defined here in my time-space-reality. That’s as good as it gets! — Abraham
Excerpted from the workshop in Boulder, CO on Saturday, June 7th, 2003
Here, unlike Buddhism, there is no extinction of individual consciousness or desires. They are spiritual in nature and help the Universe expand. The spiritual essence of the Law of Attraction lies in the realization that this is a vibrational Universe, that we are an extension of the One, and are consciousness in physical form, experiencing this time/space reality.
Law of Attraction is not just about “positive thinking”, because there is an understanding of how frequencies resonate, so it’s also about “positive feeling”. Emotions are our tool, or as Abraham says, our “guidance system”, to understand if what we are thinking will take us where we want to be. Those who believe that simply thinking positive won’t do it, are right, but then, they did not understand LOA.
Is wanting to manifest material things, wanting to “have”, spiritual enough? Not according to You are Truly Loved, a blog worth visiting, and I can see the point being made:
The teachings on enlightenment are designed to help point you to the realization that none of that actually matters since it’s all an illusion anyways.
Even Abraham says that it’s not the “having of it” that will lead to happiness. Manifesting things is a way to understand how this Universe works. Being in alignment with Source is a spiritual understanding of the vibrational nature of things. Those who are just teaching the Law of Attraction to attract money, cars and more, are limiting what LOA is really about. Yes, one can have those, but with the understanding of the spiritual nature of that manifestation. It’s just energy in movement.
What, then? Can they both lead to Enlightenment?
The two kinds of “enlightenment” seem to have the opposite premise. No desire/desire, extinction of individual consciousness/expansion of individual consciousness. They do have in common the vibrational view of reality, and that we are Source.
We are one merging Consciousness, where the ego is an illusion of a temporary time/space reality… while we are experiencing this time/space reality, we can acknowledge the vibrational nature of all things, and create a life experience where we are aligned with the One Source. We play with energy, being able to attract things and experiences onto us, while remaining free from attachment to “material” things, because everything is energy anyways… if it’s there, great. If it’s not there, cool, there is an endless stream of energy available.
What is your view of the Law of Attraction, do you agree that it does have a spiritual nature? Is aligning with Source enough for you, to define it as “enlightenment”? Can one still enjoy individual consciousness, with the ultimate realization that there is none?
Posted on Budha Trance Law of Attraction
Depending on how you look at it, they are both right and wrong. What I mean is, they are right because there are sources that teach a mostly materialistic or incomplete approach, they are wrong because they did not look at the true spiritual essence of the principles.
Can the Law of Attraction lead to spiritual enlightenment? What is enlightenment anyways?
Buddhism and Enlightenment
According to Buddhist teachings, enlightenment is the extinction of desire and suffering and the disintegration of individual consciousness. It is the realization that the ego is an illusion of the mind, and that we are One consciousness. It is the awakening to the true nature of this Universe. This realization doesn’t stem from a purely intellectual knowledge, but from a real experience of merging into Oneness, a true knowing of the illusion of the ego.
During a Vipassana meditation course, I had a tiny millisecond glimpse of this. It was like a melting away of the body and mind, and a feeling of Oneness and floating energy. I tried to reach that state again, during following sessions, as it was really blissful in that microscopic moment, but could never replicate it. However, the memory of it is there, so I can really relate to the concept. Should I mention that everything went back to (*cough*) normal, with my individual ego being quite happy?
The Law of Attraction and Enlightenment
According to the best teachers - in my opinion - of the Law of Attraction, Abraham-Hicks, enlightenment is an alignment with Source
Enlightenment means literally aligning to the Energy of my Source. And genius is only about focusing. Law of Attraction takes care of everything else. Physical humans often want to make enlightenment about finding some process and moving through the process that has been pre-described. But true enlightenment is moving to the rhythm of the internal inspiration that is coming in response to the individual desire. Enlightenment is about allowing my Connection to the Source that is me for the fulfillment of the things that I have individually defined here in my time-space-reality. That’s as good as it gets! — Abraham
Excerpted from the workshop in Boulder, CO on Saturday, June 7th, 2003
Here, unlike Buddhism, there is no extinction of individual consciousness or desires. They are spiritual in nature and help the Universe expand. The spiritual essence of the Law of Attraction lies in the realization that this is a vibrational Universe, that we are an extension of the One, and are consciousness in physical form, experiencing this time/space reality.
Law of Attraction is not just about “positive thinking”, because there is an understanding of how frequencies resonate, so it’s also about “positive feeling”. Emotions are our tool, or as Abraham says, our “guidance system”, to understand if what we are thinking will take us where we want to be. Those who believe that simply thinking positive won’t do it, are right, but then, they did not understand LOA.
Is wanting to manifest material things, wanting to “have”, spiritual enough? Not according to You are Truly Loved, a blog worth visiting, and I can see the point being made:
The teachings on enlightenment are designed to help point you to the realization that none of that actually matters since it’s all an illusion anyways.
Even Abraham says that it’s not the “having of it” that will lead to happiness. Manifesting things is a way to understand how this Universe works. Being in alignment with Source is a spiritual understanding of the vibrational nature of things. Those who are just teaching the Law of Attraction to attract money, cars and more, are limiting what LOA is really about. Yes, one can have those, but with the understanding of the spiritual nature of that manifestation. It’s just energy in movement.
What, then? Can they both lead to Enlightenment?
The two kinds of “enlightenment” seem to have the opposite premise. No desire/desire, extinction of individual consciousness/expansion of individual consciousness. They do have in common the vibrational view of reality, and that we are Source.
We are one merging Consciousness, where the ego is an illusion of a temporary time/space reality… while we are experiencing this time/space reality, we can acknowledge the vibrational nature of all things, and create a life experience where we are aligned with the One Source. We play with energy, being able to attract things and experiences onto us, while remaining free from attachment to “material” things, because everything is energy anyways… if it’s there, great. If it’s not there, cool, there is an endless stream of energy available.
What is your view of the Law of Attraction, do you agree that it does have a spiritual nature? Is aligning with Source enough for you, to define it as “enlightenment”? Can one still enjoy individual consciousness, with the ultimate realization that there is none?
Posted on Budha Trance Law of Attraction
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